Who is Tyler for you?

tyler for me?

funny, i was waiting for someone to post this question

look him up, his account name is Life According to Zen

My Tyler lives in a VW van by the river.

my tyler is the person i wish i was. i don't know who that is yet. but someday i will.

My Tyler is friend of mine i graduated with recently. And i never thought about it until now, but we share the same first name. Damn that's weird. I would say he's imaginary but other people see and talk to him too. It's weird though, i guess aside from the fact that, like the much fictional Tyler, he opened my eyes to the world around me, he helped realize that there's a Tyler Durden in each of us just waiting for the echoing whisper of dissatisfaction or the pop that an impact makes when you get hit just right.

[QUOTE=Scott~]I don't understand how anyone could pick another person as their "Tyler". The entire point of Tyler's being is to be the person YOU want to be, not be someone else. Everybody would love to be as carefree and witty as Tyler Durden, but no matter what you say, there are certain societal restraints that hold us all back.[/QUOTE]

I guess, that's true. But there always is a person that seems close to Tyler. Maybe not in the exact ways, but you could see how someone would remind you of him.

Glad you asked. No, really. This is going to sound so elementary and cheesy, but you can deal with it. After my best friend and I saw the movie, we decided that the two of us together are Tyler Durden. She is exactly me in a different body. We are the same person. On birthday cards or Christmas gifts or anything, we always sign it, "Mr. Durden" or "Tyler". So yeah... Kendra is my Tyler.

-Alicia

My Tyler lives in my bottle of vodka, and sometimes takes a rest in the cranberry juice when it's hot out.

Sister Melissa Beatrice of the Order of Vodka drinking Nuns of the South Puget Sound Exposed

if tyler is who you want to be, my tyler is a successful write. the end. pretty much me, but with talent.

I am my own Tyler.

Who is my Tyler Durden? That's an interesting question. It's true that Tyler should be who we are and who we strive to be. So Tyler to me has all the confidence in the world. He isn't afraid to write his opinions. He isn't afraid of the critics. He isn't afraid of not wearing the newest trends. He is a trend setter because his confidence allows only that. He doesn't let that weak inner voice we sometimes have get to him. The voice that tells us we can't go after that girl because they are out of our league. It's the confidence and understanding that no one person is better then the next. It's that inner peace with oneself. That's my Tyler Durden.

My Tyler is someone who does not afraid from changes.
Someone that isn't so patheticaly depend on other human beings, that can exist all by himself.

Is the question, "do you need a Tyler?"
No.
It is "who is Tyler for you?" A hypothetical question.

Good day to you.

EDIT: Bugger wrong word.

[QUOTE=R.A.M]you cant say all this because if you had need for a 'tyler' you would develop skitzophrenia, none of you have this, none of you can say what you need in a tyler.[/QUOTE]
it's about who you admire, what you want to be like, not who would be you other self if you developed skitzophrenia

[QUOTE=R.A.M]You know in the book theres no mentio of tyler being what 'Joe' wants to be, at no time is he described as beng good looking strong or any of that shit. in fact they got so beat up they 'looked like twins'.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]Tyler in the book was Jack's supreme state of being, [B]he was everything Jack wanted to be[/B]. I saw this quote in the forum that said "find you inner durden", it got me thinking, who is Tyler for me?

I imagine it's somone involved in music, with lots of freinds living in the music scene of New York or LA. It's something you should really consider, or atleast something I've benn considering. [B]Who do you want to be?[/B]

I think thats how Jack created Tyler, like it says in the movie, "[B]people do it everyday, they see themselves, the way they want to be. You just had the courage to run with it[/B]." ~Tyler [/QUOTE]

in the movie, tyler also says something like "i fuck who you wanna fuck. i look how you wanna look".

my Tyler would be someone who didn't hesitate to act instinctual, in other words someone who believed enough in fate to do what he felt was right/wrong/appropriate, and damn the consequences.
i used to be more like this, but as i get older and rely more on things like finances, and not being in jail, etc, i think things through too much before doing them.

[QUOTE=Tad R. fitzsimmions]i wish i was the old me thats my tyler[/QUOTE]
you phrased it better to me, and didn't have to make any personal confessions!

[QUOTE=izen]my Tyler would be someone who didn't hesitate to act instinctual, in other words someone who believed enough in fate to do what he felt was right/wrong/appropriate, and damn the consequences.
i used to be more like this, but as i get older and rely more on things like finances, and not being in jail, etc, i think things through too much before doing them.[/QUOTE]
see me making a confession about getting old? see me talking about how i used to not be like that?

i got one and everyday im wishing it did have a life of its own cuz i just keep thinking "why do i put up with this shit, why do i listen to people why do i stay here" i mean not that id hurt people but i sure as hell wouldnt give into their will so i guess tyler for me is my inner thoughts trying to get release

someday ::looks to the horizon:: someday

I kinda think its sad that everyone wants to be someone else. I like those guys that said, "I am my own Tyler" cause that's what I was thinking. I'm happy with who I am. I'm doing what I want to do. I wouldn't change anything if I had the chance. If you live your life wishing you were someone else, you will never be happy with who you are and probably won't end up like that other person anyway.

My tyler has the courage to do what he thinks always. he has the courage to try something based on instinct without fear.

fuck money, fuck chicks, fuck gold and silver. it's all just posessions. if that is your tyler then you have a serious distortion of wht that book/movie was all about and it might be time to reevaluate some priorities in your life. thats not a criticism, just a suggestion.

I notice everyone talks about "their Tyler", not themselves. everyone's Tyler seems to be made up of spontaneous individual, who is courageous without fear, and whom they can only seem to contact under the influences of drugs. Well, damn I read a story about that once, and it was called Fight Club, and in this story the guy allows "his Tyler", to take over. So, the question should be, if you were "your Tyler", what would you do?

[QUOTE=joeyjojojrshabadoo]I notice everyone talks about "their Tyler", not themselves. everyone's Tyler seems to be made up of spontaneous individual, who is courageous without fear, and whom they can only seem to contact under the influences of drugs. Well, damn I read a story about that once, and it was called Fight Club, and in this story the guy allows "his Tyler", to take over. So, the question should be, if you were "your Tyler", what would you do?[/QUOTE]
good point joeyjojo. i think if i were my tyler i would just call everyone on their bullshit (not just on forums but in real life too) and also call myself on my bullshit as well rather than just thinking "why are/am they/i saying this? its obviously a meaningless lie like the ones i always invent to convince myself that i'm doing exactly what i want and getting exactly what i need." its kind of hard to face how fucked my life really is (and how most of it is my fault) rather than just pretending it isn't. furthermore, i think that people can only tap into 'their tyler' while on drugs is because the drug numbs the pain of facing their faults and accepting them (temporarily).

A lot of people acknowledge the fact that they aren't happy with their self-image. Denial can't last forever. Some of these people kid themselves, lie to themselves and say that they still have plenty of time to change. Or they try to control their environment, which is never a viable option. However, what most people never realize is that if they have to put deep thought into what they should be, take into account a one, five, and ten year plan that they think will truly fit who they are, are they truly grasping their instinctual being and doing only what would make them happy?

[QUOTE=sick girl]"People do it everyday; they see themselves the way they want to be. You just had the courage to run with it." -Tyler

I think the question is: If you had the courage to run with it, what would you be?

I would be exactly the same person I am now, only there would be a change of scenery. A few months ago I was going to steal my brother's car (as a 16 year old, without any sort of liscense), get some Pixies tunes going, and just drive as far south as possible. Then I realized that I'd rather just stay here at my parent's house with my hot chocolate and twinkies and high school and wait until at least college to fuck up my life and the lives of the people who care about me.[/QUOTE]
i see the first part. you lost me on the second. having the courage to run with it doesn't mean stealing cars and abandoning everything that you care about. that sounds like an extreme reaction to fear. of course you shouldn't make all of your decisions (especially the big ones) based on how it will affect other people. however, doing things that you know will hurt others will not prove that you have the courage to 'run with it'. especially if that is your intention (to prove it). actually in a perverse sort of way that proves that you are still acting based on your predicted reaction from others (only in this case you are doing what people don't want you to do rather than what they do want you to do). there is just as much emptiness that way. the difference is that you will get into a different kind of trouble that way. a much more tangible kind.

[QUOTE=Worms]The nameless narrator did not create Tyler. Tyler was always, always there. The narrator, as far as I'm concerned, was nameless because it could be any one of us. He could be anyone. He was... everyone. He represented everyone, each and every one of us, that entire generation who is working in shit jobs to buy shit they don't need.

To me, Tyler just represents a side to everyone's personality. Blowing stuff up was basically symbolic, same as the fighting, really. I think everyone craves that true freedom, but we're just scared. Scared of getting in trouble, scared of having people frown upon us, scared of losing that "stability". Scared of being an individual so instead people just want the same thing as everyone else (the stuff his father said, "go to college", "get married").

We don't need to blow up or fuck a "twisted bitch" all night long so she doesn't die, but I everyone has their inner Tyler, and sometimes I think we need to listen to him. :)

Similar themes are raised in [I]Choke[/I] - the sex addiction was symbolic. That "have to get off" feeling experienced by Victor and Denny could be replaced be anything. Smoking, grog, IKEA furniture. Work. They had to fight that addiction and when they did they were well... happier.[/QUOTE]

Well said. I agree.

But if my Tyler Durden was in the form of another personality, I'd have to say he'd be me...only older, more muscular, witty, charming, and free. I guess it's the same for nearly everyone else. But I see Tyler as a goal for me to reach, as a potential I haven't yet used. If I am to become Tyler Durden, I must remain as myself, and work harder for the things that I want.