Marriage Issues and Psychology
I'm doing a short story and I was wondering if any psychology studies have been done that broke marriage problems down into a list of reasons, eg. there are 9 main reasons why marriage fails; lack of respect, cheating, bad communication, etc, etc.
I've been searching online and can only find tabloid magazine type lists of why a marriage might fail. I'd like a more academic list if possible.
I found this book - http://books.google.co.uk/books?hl=en&id=PupnPhJkMF0C&dq=The+Psychology+... - which looks good but there's no hard list of X amount of reasons, I could gather a ballpark figure from it though if needed.
Thanks for any help.
The strongest determining factor to the dissolve of a marriage is Money.
As for a more accurate and perhaps more authoritarian list, you can always check out some of the psych journals. Google's good too!
I guess I'm just a weird guy...
I would suggest reading the work of Dr. John Gottman. He's a specialist in Washington State. Fantastic information as a result scientific research.
One discovery Gottman made in his work, In a marriage there needs to be a 5/1 ratio of positive to negative interactions for the marriage to succeed long term.
A positive could be anything from making dinner to a compliment or just a smile.
A negative can be anything from an insult to not doing the dishes.
actually here is a recent article on Dr. Gottman
http://mainebusiness.mainetoday.com/blogentry.html?id=14005
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It was a awhile ago but in my old Sociology 101 class the #1 reason for breakdown of marriage was lack of sexual attraction. That was about 5 years ago though
maybe she is, but she's too blocked from the site to comment at the moment
there are many reasons why a marriage fails. i was raised with three sisters and three dad and mother figures. guess that's why it took me thirty three years to marry myself. i think the biggest thing is not dealing with issues when the issues are small enough to deal with. one of my wife's best friends is very close to absolving the relationship she's in with a possible husband and that plight seems correlative with the fact that many little things that were easy to doll out became things they didnt deal with at all and cant now. but all people have thresholds that they cant relent on. for me, the only way out of a marriage is cheating and death. you can fight through anything else if your union is strong enough to confront the issues. small battles are important, though, too. form your boundaries together. some of the important ones for me is to never touch in vein, to never point faults in your lover in order to hide your own. to never fight in public. dont use your friends or puppies or belongings to further a point. the point is to resolve an issue, not prove superiority. but i think the biggest issue with divorce is the easy lack of communication.
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play hard, like it's work to be done.
lack of communication
money/bills
fidelity
sexual incompatability
unresolved issues
trust issues
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