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If you are walking through a door and someone else is coming in or leaving, you should hold it open. It is common courtesy.
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
Yeah, I definitely find it to be a matter of kindness. A surprisingly large number of younger people do that here in France. Not that I expected people to be less kind, but I guess it just surprised me.
I don't care, but if I'm RIGHT behind you, don't hold it open for half a second then slam it in my face. Gets me so mad every time
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This is why we can't have nice things.
I'm always holding and opening doors for people. It's funny how common courtesy is dead now days. I see people coming into my apartment building, arms full of groceries, and I run to the door to open it for them. They walk right in, not even thanking me or looking at me. This happens at least once a week.
One day I offered to help the lady that lives below me carry her groceries in. She ran by me without saying anything.
For real, that's so dick. I will say that there are days when I'm in a hurry and the person is kind in that weird intermittent space of not close, but not far, and then I have to make a snap judgement call based on age and strength (some of the exit doors can be kind of heavy and I don't wanna let it close on a little old lady or a small woman).
How is WhatsYourPrice not prostitution, thats what I wanna know
If a woman is behind me, but not right behind me, and we're getting closer to the door, I'll slow down just enough so that when I open it, she won't be an awkward distance away for me to hold it.
Si vis pacem, para bellum
Are all bets off if the person is more interesting in their phone than the fact that you're holding the door open for them?
Maybe it's different because I'm in the south? I don't know, it but everyone holds the door for everyone else and almost everyone says thanks. I always hold it and I always say thanks. The only time I won't hold it is if you are just far enough away that my holding it makes you feel like you need to hurry up.
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
Well, The South does have Good Manners to go along with its Inborn Xenophobia.
This is why we can't have nice things.
This.
Well bless your heart.
It's really sad, too, because she was a great warrior princess, and I don't understand what their problem with her is.
What Melody said. It's much more often that you'll have to sprintwalk toward a door that someone has completely stopped their day to hold open for you than anyone directly in front of you completely ignoring it and you.
It's so second nature that I think most people would have to go out of their way to not hold a door open. Which makes pretty much the same as saying, "Fuck you AND your mother, especially if she has recently passed away!"
And that's frowned upon, usually.
It's really sad, too, because she was a great warrior princess, and I don't understand what their problem with her is.
She can kick all of our asses. You'd be a fool to not be frightened.
Last week at the laundromat, I opened the door for a couple coming in with a ton of baskets, and a guy inside said, "AW! WHAT'RE YA DOIN'?! I WAS GONNA HOLD IT CLOSED ON THEM!"
He was friends with the couple so I felt bad about ruining his prank. That's the only time I was a dick for holding the door for someone.
Well bless your heart.
It's funny because it's true!
This is why we can't have nice things.
People sometimes hold doors open for me when I'm still quite far away and I have to jog to get there because then I feel bad. Stressful.
I hold doors open for people who are right behind me. Often Rhys is behind me and he does not even touch the door, just lets it swing in to people. He isn't rude on purpose but I think he's sort of on the autistic spectrum.
I do the courteous thing and hold open doors for people, but I would say probably 70% don't say thank you.
My husband will often open the car door for me if we're getting back into the car, he'll go around to the passenger side first and hold the door for me. I've told him he doesn't need to, but he still does. Makes me feel like a lady and an old lady all at the same time.
My husband will often open the car door for me if we're getting back into the car, he'll go around to the passenger side first and hold the door for me. I've told him he doesn't need to, but he still does. Makes me feel like a lady and an old lady all at the same time.
James does that, but he also gives me the stink eye and a hard time if I do not reach over and unlock the drivers side door before he gets to it.
It is kind of funny.
James does that, but he also gives me the stink eye and a hard time if I do not reach over and unlock the drivers side door before he gets to it.
It is kind of funny.
haha.. is he a Bronx Tale fan?
James does that, but he also gives me the stink eye and a hard time if I do not reach over and unlock the drivers side door before he gets to it.
It is kind of funny.
haha.. is he a Bronx Tale fan?
haha. yep. exactly. I have heard variations of that speech so many times. Under threat of being dumped 'cause I forgot to get the lock.
It is sort of a private joke between us, though not so much as clearly you got it as soon as I barely mentioned.
Sometimes he goes around extra fast, now and every then, like a race, see if I can get the lock before he gets there. other times he will have it unlocked, knowingly, already and smirk at me and laugh about it when there is nothing for me to unlock.
James does that, but he also gives me the stink eye and a hard time if I do not reach over and unlock the drivers side door before he gets to it.
It is kind of funny.
haha.. is he a Bronx Tale fan?
It is because of that movie that I always lean over and unlock the door.
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
In that case you two would be perfect for each other.
Crap. okay, don't take that the wrong way. I didn't mean that like annoyed jealousy at what you said. It was more a follow through of the joke.
I hold doors open for other people, but nobody says "thank you". I have gotten doors slammed in my face more times than I can count, and it really seems like no one gives a fuck about common courtesy around here.
Somebody falls on their ass? Ignore it and walk by. You don't ask people if they're alright or help them up. No way, man.
When I get to my apartment building, first thing I do is check if we have gotten any mail and then I tend to take the elevator up to our floor (6th floor, I'm always carrying bags with groceries). Whenever someone else enters the apartment building at the same time as me, they almost sprint to the elevator and disappear.
I really wish people were nicer.
See! If you lived in my building, I'd not only be holding the elevator, I'd be carrying the groceries. Nobody her wants my help though...
I'd very much appreciate it if you moved here. I'll evict the next door neighbor myself.
I'd love to move there for the scenery alone. Too bad it's not that easy. haha
Somebody falls on their ass? Ignore it and walk by. You don't ask people if they're alright or help them up. No way, man.
When I get to my apartment building, first thing I do is check if we have gotten any mail and then I tend to take the elevator up to our floor (6th floor, I'm always carrying bags with groceries). Whenever someone else enters the apartment building at the same time as me, they almost sprint to the elevator and disappear.
I really wish people were nicer.
I always hold doors for people, its common courtesy. Sometimes even if they are far away I will hold it open just to be nice. To kill the awkwardness, if they are walking slowly I jokingly yell at then to hurry up in kind of a Chris Rock voice. If someone drops something I usually try to help out. If someone has their hands full and they baby/kid drops their bottle or something in the grocery store I usually pick it up for them. I know I'm a little rough looking but usually a smirk or a smile goes a long way. Plus I'm in the south and people are just more receptive to politeness. I always get mad when my wife tells me how nobody ever helps her in the store. I mean she is juggling a baby and a toddler trying to get something off a top shelf or trying to load cases of water in the cart and 9 times out of 10 nobody offers assistance, not even employees. People are always too busy with themselves and in a hurry for whatever reason or paying attention only to their smartphones. This is where social media will fail the human civilization, we are too busy trying to make connections and snappy comebacks to our online friends that we can't even make a connection or even see another actual living human being right in front of you who's day you can totally make by just paying motherfucking attention to a basic human need and offering 10 seconds out of your day to at least offer a hand. Maybe I'm just old fashioned or chivalry is truly dead I don't know. However I was raised by an alcoholic mother in various slums and trailer parks around the country and I "get it" I understand common courtesy and basic human interaction. So what is everyone's excuse? I also like to fuck with people's misconceptions of people as well.
“The man of knowledge must be able not only to love his enemies but also to hate his friends.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
There's one exception to my being nice. If it's after 9 o'clock or dark outside, I do not hold the door when I get into my building. Experience has taught me that's not a good idea. In fact, I even pull the door so it would close faster.
Christina always tells me I'm an anger ball. I'm not an anger ball. I'm just extremely frustrated with this right here. People have no compassion for what is right in front of them. Yet, they'll post all this touching stuff on facebook. So you're telling me that if 500 people don't see you do something, there's no point in doing it?
I will say, however, fore the most part people are much more polite and friendlier here than up north and out west. You can literally say hello to anyone and they will greet you back... most of the time.
“The man of knowledge must be able not only to love his enemies but also to hate his friends.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
I do that even to strangers. I like it when men do it to me. Even yesterday when I came home from school, I was waiting for the cable car along with a million other people, and a man let me climb in ahead of him. I was impressed because the stop was really crowded and it was drizzling.