So I just had sex and...
For a long time I've always suspected that I never would really enjoy sex as much as most people. And as it turns out, I was kind of right.
The guy I invited over was really nice and he was great and all, but the entire time I was thinking "Well this is kind of awkward and weird and gross." Honestly, I get a of a lot more stimulation from masturbating. So when I invited him over we had planned on hanging around for 3-4 hours, but after an hour I'd just kind of had enough. Luckily my step-dad called from the airport so I made up some story about how they got bumped from their flight and were heading back this way and basically kicked the guy out. I was really apologetic and sincere about it though.
Overall it was a pretty disappointing experience, but the weird thing is that I'm not really that upset over it. I think this was more about just getting over my anxiety problems. In the end I'm glad I did it, but I don't think I'll be doing it again for a long time. If ever.
I'm going to go take another shower now and wash the shame and disappointment off me.
HA!
Well the first time is usually always awkward and uncomfortable. Another huge part of enjoying sex is your state of mind. Sex is a mindless sport. If you're thinking too much during sex it's not going to work.
"Hey random guy, come over and do me while my parents are gone."
How is that uncomfortable?
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
He's losing his virginity to another guy and is socially awkward...how could it not be uncomfortable?
It was destined to be uncomfortable no matter what the circumstances.
Now I have to look forward to telling this dude how I felt about the whole thing. As he was leaving he said "Well I hope we can do this again someday," and I just forced on a smile and said "Sure!" Think I'll wait a few days though.
It probably would have been better if it was someone you really cared about or interested in and not just some "nice guy".
Next time try having coffee first.
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
Seriously doubting there will be a next time.
you mean you will never meet another guy?
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
Nobody loves it their first time, and if they say they did, they're lying. It hurts!
Justin, I hope you fall in love with someone and passion takes over and you get to have some enjoyable experiences. Emotions have a lot to do with it, but it takes awhile to get there (age, experience, self confidence, etc). I hate that you feel ashamed, though. I hope you were kidding about that part, because you shouldn't feel ashamed. 
Ewwwww Justin did it!!!!!!! Ewwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!
That aside I just want to say that it's probably harder for a gay make to really have a good experience their first time. It seems like if you're not first with someone you know or care for, it's probably going to be as awkward as you've experienced. I applaud you still for getting over a hurdle that you didn't think you'd get over nor expect to try to get over again.
Well since no one else will ask. Were you top or bottom?
Yeah that might play into how awkward it was too.
You've made him sound fairly pleasant (despite the circumstances). What were you expecting from shagging a stranger, anyway?
He is obviously a bottom.
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
I'll never understand this, why don't they just take turns?
Not all girls want it up the butt, why would all men?
Justin, you are as gay as the day is long.
So not so much during the winter solstice.
Si vis pacem, para bellum
Yeah the bears have to hibernate.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one who likes or at least approves of Justin around here.
I like Justin. I don't like that he didn't have a nice time.
Even outside of the winter solstice, he's probably the least gay guy in the world. Most of the time, I feel like I'm gayer than he is. And I don't mean in a stereotypical personality way, I mean sometimes I think I would have more fun fucking a person of the same sex than he would. And I don't believe I'd be super into it. If I made a thread about it though, it'd be a lot more upbeat than this.
Where would one be on the Kinsey scale if one's just disgusted by humanity in general? That's where I picture Justin.
Ritt delivers again.
Also, I have no problem with Justin. I don't know what to say about this situation, as I have 0 interest in it, but I do sincerely hope that things work out.
Justin, I hope you find someone nice with whom you're comfortable.
Justin is great! I love his whiny rants. I root for him every time he worries about something. And I want him to enjoy his gay sex.
It probably sounds like I'm being funny, but I'm really being serious. 
Who ever said they didn't like him?
I just thought it was kind of a poor choice to have sex with a complete stranger instead of someone you feel...really any positive feelings towards at all.
Yeah I find offense in Irina's comment saying that she's the only one that likes Justin. I liked him when he was Chubby Chops sooo there! 
(look at those brows and forehead!sheesh)
Seriously though I like Justin even if he is homophobic and basically panphobic. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_phobias
Are we fighting over him? I (sometimes) liked him when he chased bears and was a total bitch to me.
I knew him back when he was bearchaser, so there.
Irina, this is a silly comment.
I did too but I liked Chubby Chops best.
All of you are soooo gay for him, it's ridiculous.
You always want what you can't have.
Guess that's why I haven't said much. I can have him whenever I want.
Si vis pacem, para bellum
I made my point. (Which wasn't to offend anyone, btw)
Too late, Irina. Look at her face.
It's been hours and she's still pissed.
justin, while I cannot personally relate to what you're going through, my roommate is going through some similar stuff.
he's a bear (or cub I guess) who, for lack of a more eloquent term, is stiil a butt virgin. he's met some guy who is planning to visit but it's super weird to me because the dude is like this older 50 year old bear who lives in fucking pennsylvania.
the whole situation is weird and I feel like he's worked it up and is going to come out disappointed. I feel like being underwhelmed or weirded out after your first time is a common sentiment. point being, my first time sucked, lots of people's first time sucked, but it improves. (I almost said it gets better and then I realized how fucking double-dick-sucking gay that would have sounded)
tl;dr fuckin bears and I know way too many fags
“if you want to be a bird,” you said once, “with colorful plumage and buoyant trills, you must also be ready for hollow bones."
to answer this, many do. but in many gay relationships, you have a more 'passive' partner and a more 'dominant' partner. some people prefer being fucked and some people prefer doing the fucking. also some people, like my best friend, do not want a dick in their ass, so most of his sex is through oral.
from my knowledge though it is not attractive when one partner refuses to top or bottom.
I am the gay knowledge queen.
“if you want to be a bird,” you said once, “with colorful plumage and buoyant trills, you must also be ready for hollow bones."
This has gotten gayer than space.
Giant black holes and stuff, I get it.
I like how everybody here just automatically assumes I'm a bottom.
Only because you've mentioned shoving stuff up your butt, but I can't imagine you wanting to let someone else shove something of theirs up your butt.
Well you are, aren't you?
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
What makes you think he doesn't shove it up his butt from on top? Huh?
So, I went over to this guy's house for coffee. Figured it was time I got out of the house and made a few real friends.
Well, imagine my surprise...
Things got awkward pretty fast.
And uncomfortable. Let me tell you. Until you've had a chunky hairy guy pound your dry virgin ass for 40 minutes, you don't know uncomfortable. I still can't sit properly.
...
And then just this Monday I let another man put both his hands inside me.
Guess I'm just a slut.
....
Hi, Justin. Mazel tov! Love ya. Sorry to jack (heh) your ... thread. Give it a few days and go on a date. Get some food, maybe a drink and/or a movie. Live it up. Then go somewhere and make the fuck out like a couple crazy kids. It's awesome.
This is why we can't have nice things.
Tuffy! Awesome come(heh)back.
Oh, I didn't. That jerk is selfish in bed.
And on the couch.
And the living room rug.
And in the kitchen.
And the ball pit at McDonald's.
This is why we can't have nice things.
Hasn't anyone congratulated the man yet?
Woot Justin! I'm, well for lack of a better emotion, proud of you. I never thought I'd be telling someone I was proud of them for having gay sex with a stranger. (that's a lie, I knew I would tell it again).
I actually have this secret cheerleading thing going on for all the boys here with love problems, problems not ever having had any love yet.
Marking you off my list of worries now.
Sex gets a lot better too. You just have to practice a bunch first.
Well you are, aren't you?
melody, you're being pushy.
“if you want to be a bird,” you said once, “with colorful plumage and buoyant trills, you must also be ready for hollow bones."
Well, I did. In Yiddish even.
This is why we can't have nice things.
Yeah, well, I can't imagine a situation like that would be very enjoyable.
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica