Rosie's No Nonsense Advice Thread.
Sorry, I should've rephrased that better. I know you're a good person, Mckay!
I think I got friendzoned. What do I doooooo?
I didn't know girls got friendzoned.
I know they can get notgonnahaveanactualrelationshipwithyouzoned.
But from everything I've been told and observed about boys, shagging is nearly always up for grabs still.
Not when "why would I go home for Christmas, I live in Bucharest and I have who to spend a cosy Christmas with".
I mean I get it, he spends more time with me than with the other girls in our group and sits with me and plays creative games because he considers me on his level, which I'm totally fine with. But fuck your mixed signals, dude. Seriously.
Honesty and openness are nice.
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I won't tell him. He already suspects it.
Oh. Good reason to hide it then.
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I laughed pretty hard.
Si vis pacem, para bellum
I don't really get what you mean by "friendzoned". This is the classmate? He's said to you something like "We're only going to ever be friends?"
Good god, I actually had to google "friendzone" and there's an actual wiki page for the term Why is life so complicated it needs a whole internet page dedicated to a term about having a crush on someone and them not reciprocating.?
In popular culture, the "friend zone" refers to a platonic relationship where one person wishes to enter into a romantic relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation by the lovelorn person.[1] Once the friend zone is established, it is said to be difficult to move beyond that point in a relationship.
I reckon fuck that guy. He's a dork. Get blunt with him and tell him you like him and want more, or just stop hanging around with him. He's being a mindfuck and you don't need that.
From the guy's perspective, Irina's being a mindfuck too. I would feel horrible if I learned that someone I liked me back but didn't tell me because they didn't want to screw it up like me.
And not just that, but actively tried to hide it from me.
Yeah, I don't get it. I always had a hard time telling a guy how I felt but I learned to just be upfront about it as possible because all the guys that I liked but never told would always tell me they had a thing for me as soon as they would hook up with some other girl. It sucked. Even though being up front hasn't gotten me very far with guys I feel better that I'm not trying to play games or having to hide how I really feel.
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*Personally I would rather be friends with a guy for a year or two, before a serious relationship. I actually like to watch them lightly date, so I know if the guy has a Dr. Jeckle/Mr. Hyde syndrome, before I date him. Let it be known to him, that you like him, but are in no particular rush. That way, he will consider you. He may jump you immediately or at a later date. Moreover, this will also save you from the torture of watching him get into a serious relationship with another girl, before you get a chance to tell him how you feel.
Your guy will come around. And the perfect time will come for both of you.
Do you want a roll in the hay or a deeper best friends/lover relationship?
Guys take things really slow with girls that they think are special.
People just need to get drunk and snog.
roger that!
Heh. "Roger"...
Tuffy the Dump Truck may rarely increase the risk of a heart attack or stroke. The risk may be greater if you have heart disease or increased risk for heart disease (for example, due to smoking, family history of heart disease, or conditions such as high blood pressure or diabetes), or with longer use. Tuffy should not be taken right before or after heart bypass surgery. Also, Tuffy may infrequently cause serious (rarely fatal) bleeding from the stomach or intestines. This effect can occur without warning symptoms at any time while taking Tuffy. Older adults may be at higher risk for this effect. (See also Precautions and Drug Interactions sections.) Stop taking Tuffy and get medical help right away if you notice any of the following rare but serious side effects: bloody or black/tarry stools, persistent stomach/abdominal pain, vomit that looks like coffee grounds, chest/jaw/left arm pain, shortness of breath, unusual sweating, weakness on one side of the body, sudden vision changes, slurred speech. Ask your doctor if Tuffy is right for you.
Guys take things really slow with girls that they think are special.
It better be this.
Mike is right. You're actively trying to hide it from him. What do you expect from him? If I was him I would be talking to the girl I knew liked me. Just saying.
Maybe, but at the same time he's the only person in my class I keep eye contact with for more than one second, I'm not exactly being very subtle and come on, he read that stuff here and then I rushed home to edit everything. Wasn't that obvious enough? I'd go for if he did like me, he would've said something by now. And the Christmas thing can only mean there's another girl involved, right?
Seriously, talk to him. It doesn't matter how obvious you think you are making it, he might not be getting it at all. He is a man, after all.
^ yep.
actual quote of his.
he either has a friend called who or there´s something missing. you´re sure he didn´t want to suggest spending christmas with you?
Hah I doubt that. He also declined two invitations to go out this week - once with our group of classmates, the second time with just me and another girl.
Maybe the "who" part was a poor translation on my part. Would "someone" have worked better? I have someone to spend Christmas with? In Romanian we don't make a difference between the singular and plural in such a context, we use the indefinite relative pronoun that's equivalent to "who".
I still think you should talk to him to make sure. If he has someone, time to move on! Better to know.
We're on holiday now anyway. Next year, maybe.
Aren't you friends on Facebook?
yes...
why does he spy after you if he´s not at least a bit interested? talk to him, if he´s not into you you have the whole holidays to get over it !
Exactly. Why can't you just message him on Facebook and ask if he wants to meet up over the holidays. If he makes up excuses you've got your answer.
I'll think about it. Maybe he comes for drinks on Sunday (when we all meet for the last time this year, because the other people in our group aren't from Bucharest and will go home for the holidays) so we'll talk then.
*(Irina)
I don't get what the problem is.
Tuffy the Dump Truck may rarely increase the risk of a heart attack or stroke. The risk may be greater if you have heart disease or increased risk for heart disease (for example, due to smoking, family history of heart disease, or conditions such as high blood pressure or diabetes), or with longer use. Tuffy should not be taken right before or after heart bypass surgery. Also, Tuffy may infrequently cause serious (rarely fatal) bleeding from the stomach or intestines. This effect can occur without warning symptoms at any time while taking Tuffy. Older adults may be at higher risk for this effect. (See also Precautions and Drug Interactions sections.) Stop taking Tuffy and get medical help right away if you notice any of the following rare but serious side effects: bloody or black/tarry stools, persistent stomach/abdominal pain, vomit that looks like coffee grounds, chest/jaw/left arm pain, shortness of breath, unusual sweating, weakness on one side of the body, sudden vision changes, slurred speech. Ask your doctor if Tuffy is right for you.
Yeah, with some guys you can't be obvious enough. You could walk right up to them and ask flat out if they wanted to have sex and they would look around for a hidden camera and go, "What do you mean?"
What did I say? Why is that funny?
Name one way it isn't funny. Go ahead. We'll wait.
I don't get it either.
roger 1101 up, 475 down
To roger is an English slang term commonly used to mean have sexual intercourse. However, it is used only for men towards Women, and not the other way round. It is also commonly used to describe the taking of a woman from behind.
Oh.
Oh. You're right. That's not funny.
This is what I keep telling everyone. Thats my favorite part of getting drunk is finding a cute girl and snogging(love that term)
And I have been telling Irina to be bold for so long, then I get drunk and say stupid shit...
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
Never heard that before in my life. Learn something new every day.
I might use that one day.
Didn't Irina post here about daydreaming about her crush tapping her on the back and asking her to hang out, and then he went and did that, and then we found out he was lurking here?
Sounds pretty clear to me.
No, Amber, he only came here once, as I was sitting next to him in the pub. I hadn't even mentioned the Cult to anyone in my class back when that happened. I didn't give more details about his wandering about this place last week because I was still worried he'd come back. He seemed really offended when I told him how much it had pissed me off, but how supportive everyone had been. "How old do you think I am to do that?"
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This made me laugh out loud and blush, and I had to hide it from the bloke so I wouldn't have to explain.
oh rosie, you little hussy ! 
I don't get it.
Who is that?
I have no clue who that is, but, ahem, long tongue...
Thanks for the advice, everyone. I've been doing the allergy pills but they make me seriously stoned interacting with some other meds I'm on.
There are so many abandonned animals in the world, it makes me seriously depressed.
Just to clarify, I'd never abandon an animal. It really breaks my heart to even consider finding a new home for him. I'd never just take him to the woods and let him fend for himself.
You know in all the years I've been here I've never been sigged?