Rosie's No Nonsense Advice Thread.

Poor you, Winnie. That woman sounds super toxic. Definitely try and get a restraining order!

Rosie and Hattie, you guys are so right. She is toxic and crazy. I mean who threatens someone, because they don't want to be your friend? I mean, she even threatened my dog. She said, "you better keep your dog up there!" ( we live in the country and she only lives 2 houses down from me. Maybe like a half mile.) My dog runs free when she's outside, and goes around their house. When I said something about if my dog were to get hurt, that I would know who to report. She said she wasn't going to hurt my dog.
Anyways, no I have not told my husband or children that I was speaking to her and getting pills from her. I'm pretty sure them and my husbands whole family will be behind me, but it's just telling them. And they probably will be blame her again, because they do not like her.
It's just going to be so hard to tell my husband and kids, because they cannot stand her from the last time we hung out. I have to tell them though, because she is going to be saying stuff to the family, whether I do or not. I know she can't just drop it. I told her nobody in the family likes her anyway and that sent her to the moon. She knows most of them don't, but she thought she was making some lee way with them. And I can deal with the whole Inlaw family being upset with me, but they won't be. I've been through so much with them and them with me. So anyhow, I'm going to have to figure out how to tell my husband and children above all first, so if she moves forward with her threats, I will be able to fight back without having to explain myself to them. My step dad is an excop and with the last episode with her and pills he called her. He told her if she ever have me pills again that he would make sure of her getting in trouble. She sells her pills too. I know that would be super uncool to tell on her, but if she try's to hurt me or my family, I will have no choice. And I almost want to go ahead and do it, just to show her she can't get away with threatening me. She thinks she has the upper hand and is just going to intimidate the shit out of me and tell the whole family and try to get the to hate me.
She is a total CUNT!!

Winnie, your family will love you no matter what. I know the idea of confiding and being honest about everything right now is probably really overwhelming and scary, but put yourself in their shoes. If they knew someone was threatening you, don't you know they'd be on your side? Let your family help you through this. Surely in the long run they'll appreciate your honesty.

Also, go to the police. Get it on record that she is harassing you and making threats. She has a record and doesn't seem to be reformed, and she's posing a danger to your family. Fuck that bitch. Protect what's yours at all costs. Get the law on your side, and in the event that she is disturbed enough to follow through with any of her bullshit, you will have already established a legal record of her intentions.

Please be careful and take care of yourself. Stay away from those pills, too, and get clean and healthy for yourself and your family. Please do this.

Alecia, thank you so much for your kind words. I just got off the phone with my husband and I told him everything. And his exact words, " Fuck That Bitch!" yes my family is behind me. I just know I have to let them know of my wrong, so I can be in the position to defend myself freely, with my family behind me. Like my husband said, they will be a little upset, but as soon as I'm straight they will be fine, and they in no way would NOT have my back against her, even while I'm getting straight. He was the big one to tell and he's not mad, so I think the rest will be easier and then that bitch can bring it! She is not going to hurt me or my family and I will protect what's mine.
I feel such relief telling hi and I know I'm On the right path to what I need to do to straighten my life out. I feel like a looser at age 42 going through this shit, but I know I'm going to get better and I know my family will back me and help me through this.
Again, I so appreciate your kind words. You
And all the women in here are so inspirational to me. I do want to be like you guys the day I grow up! NOT KIDDING, SERIOUSLY! Love You Guys!!

Winnie, you're awesome and you don't deserve this bullshit. It isn't ault this woman is crazy. And I promise to take pictures of me in That Shirt this week and post All The Pix! Realy, I promise.

I'm glad you were able to tell your husband and he's not too unhappy.

Good on ya.

Now let the police know she's threatening you and be done with her.

Thank you Sarah, yes it was so good to tell him and I've told the whole family. Everyone is fine. They are not mad at me and just want me well and behind me with everything. I have never felt so good going into drug detoxing as I do this time. Everyone has always been upset with me because I've created so much damage in my path, as so many addicts seem to do. But in the midst of all this damage and detox I'm facing, I'm happier in my life than I have been in a long time. I think it's because I know my whole family is not upset with me and are right there to help me with every step I take. I also see, or I should say feel coming. I don't know what, but lots of good is coming!!
Tuffy, Thanks so much for your kind words and support! You guys supporting me means more than you know. When I'm myself, I'm on here everyday, can't wait to see what's going on with everyone. You guys are my second family.
Tuffy, I can't wait to see you in your Tshirt one day when I get on here!! That will be great! And I'm so glad Izzy likes her scarf. I do hope you enjoyed that wine. Im not a drinker anymore and had to go on the owners recommendation. But yeah, can't wait to see you in the shirt and I appreciate your support.

It's so great that your family is there for you. I'm very happy for you and hope things go better for you in the future. And definitely stay away from people like that women.

Oh don't worry, I've learned my lesson for the zillionth time. I do have a great family and they are here for me more than theyve ever been when I've relapsed. I'm not sure why, but I feel super loved and supported. Thanks for your kind words and support. I am happy to have it. Thank you! You guys make me feel really good

Oh hai.

I'm a newbie. Well, i'm newbie-ish. Um, newbie-like. Kinda new but not exactly.......ok.

This is for anyone who cares to respond, but Miss Rosie seems like she might know.

A guy who is very smart and experienced in matters of the heart once told me; if a man is interested in you, he will let you know.

Me: What if he's shy?
Guy: He will let you know. Maybe not at first encounter, but he will let you know.

Me: Maybe he's afraid of rejection....
Guy: Who isn't? He might take some time to get a better idea of the type of person you are, looking for proof that you are who he thinks you might be. But he will let you know.

Me: Why are you so certain?
Guy: Because he's a guy and this is how guys think. If he's interested in you, and you have not openly rejected his attempts at small talk or whatever ways he's tried to get you to acknowledge his existence, he will let you know.

There was some talk about interaction between the sexes, males needing to be the initiators, biology, genetics, primal instincts and evolution, Taco Bell versus Chipotle....

I've never been to a Chipotle, but the rest of this seemed pretty accurate based on my experiences. But then I'm not a guy. Is this pretty accurate?

No. Not always.

Some guys are shy, or over think things, or are waiting for some right moment to tell a woman they like her.

If you don't know, get him drunk and snog him.

Winnie, you have been through a lot. Keep strong. Sarah and Amber have great perspective.

Thanks Newgirl! Yes, most all of the women on here give great advice! They no what they speak of.......That's what they do. That what it be!