Facebook is not: a confessional, a shrink's office, a diary, etc.
What the?
That's kind of hilarious in a sad kinda way.
Or when someone finally get a boyfriend or is dating someone and updates this stuff every day about the person. "Oh wow my man is so wonderful." "I'm so lucky to have him around." "I really love my boyfriend"... I just want to say "Bitch you have only known or been with this person a whole week, how well can you really know how wonderful someone is in 1 freaking week.?" This just makes them sound so damn needy. like "OMG I finally found a guy that will date my old ass yippee!"
“The man of knowledge must be able not only to love his enemies but also to hate his friends.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
It sucks that I get uncomfortable sometimes when people post about how great their life is.
it's equally uncomfortable being facebook friends with a couple going through a messy divorce.
Hahaha Yeah it seems like my mom has a lot of facebook drama among her fb friends.
Somehow I've dodged that bullet so far. Matter of time, right?
This is why we can't have nice things.
I'm weirded out because my Aunt keeps talking to my dead Uncle via facebook. I guess everyone grieves in their own way...
"We're developing a new citizenry. One that will be very selective about cereals and automobiles, but won't be able to think."
— Rod Serling
"Chuck calls Noah fortnightly on his bakelite rotary phone and gives him publisher's insider information and stock tips."- Tuffy
Is she posting on his Facebook or her own?
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
Yeah, thats kind of weird. But it's also a little sad because she is making it public. Of course people need to feel consoled and attention helps, but doing it in this manner is a little misguided. It makes it look like she is begging for it.
If she says something every once in a while on his wall, that's less weird. But if she is doing it on her own wall its not only weird, its an obvious cry for attention.
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
One of my FB friends had a nervous breakdown and deleted his page because a girl he was friends with added someone else from his page. He was really paranoid and had bad anxiety problems. He was always telling people "Don't add my friends!" because he was worried we'd talk about him behind his back, which we did because he was such a fucking drama queen. Worst part is he knows he has problems and refuses to get help (Well he kind of did see a therapists once but never again because in his own words "She thought I was weird and is avoiding me"). I'm actually quite glad he's gone so I nor the girl (Who I'm also friends with) have to deal with his drama anymore.
Kind of ironic..
Is she posting on his Facebook or her own?
On his wall. Usually it's just around special occasions and holidays, but it just feels strange reading thoughts toward someone who has passed on.
"We're developing a new citizenry. One that will be very selective about cereals and automobiles, but won't be able to think."
— Rod Serling
"Chuck calls Noah fortnightly on his bakelite rotary phone and gives him publisher's insider information and stock tips."- Tuffy
I supppose it's nice she has a way to let people know she's still grieving and thinking of him.
Not Facebook, but related:
A kid I went to high school with died in a crash at the entrance to my neighborhood. I recognized the name, but couldn't remember the face, so I googled him. I found a Youtube video he had made for some contest a few years ago. His mother leaves comments on the video from time to time. Loving comments about her beautiful boy and stuff. It's sort of eerie and bizarre, but at the same time, heartbreakingly pitiful and sad. I feel horrible for her.
An FB profile means a whole lot more than a tombstone these days.
"They sold you hippies grunge, hip hop, now liberty activism."
True. It's like a living thing that people can visit any place, any time.
I understand wanting to keep that person in your life in some way. When my friend killed himself, I kept his phone number in my cell even though it broke my heart every time I saw it.
"We're developing a new citizenry. One that will be very selective about cereals and automobiles, but won't be able to think."
— Rod Serling
"Chuck calls Noah fortnightly on his bakelite rotary phone and gives him publisher's insider information and stock tips."- Tuffy
I still search my brother on FB from time to time even though, as far as I know, he never had an account and has been passed on for coming up on three years.
I also google him from time to time and search back through more pages than I ever would for any other search and read the comments left on the news articles about the crash. I 've found things about him here and there, some forum where someone was being trying to get attention by talking about this "asshole" he knew that died, another genealogy site where they had hs information wrong.
Grief is weird. Makes you do weird things at weird hours of the night.
My one friend who died, I will leave comments on her facebook from time to time. She was an inspiration to me and really went out of her way to encourage me. I miss that in my life.
I also haven't deleted her number. I can't bring myself to do it.
And if you guys think that's creepy, so be it.
My grandma left the raido on in the garage on the classical music station my granpa had frgot to turn off for six months after he passed. When it was finally turned off it was someone else and it upset her not knowing who did it.
I also google him from time to time and search back through more pages than I ever would for any other search and read the comments left on the news articles....
I admit that I often do this too.
Whenever there's something about heroin addicts on tv, my boyfriend tries to change the channel because he thinks it'll upset me. It does sometimes, but him doing that makes me cross.
Does anyone have issues of deleting their facebook and coming back to it? There's a side of me who likes facebook (keeping in touch w/certain people) but finds myself spending way too much time on it. The closest thing I do to social network wise is here on the cult.
"For most of this century, scientists have worshiped the hardware of the brain and the software of the mind; the messy powers of the heart were left to the poets."
I've never felt any need to delete my Facebook. I post status updates, occasionally read those of others, and use it to communication. That's about it.
"I'm glad I live in the GPS era. In a different century, I would've set off to visit the other side of the village and wandered off into the mountains and been eaten by a carnivorous plant. Or discovered the Americas."
-LaJessica
B - I have found one of the most amazing women I have ever met and her wonderful daughter, having both of them in my life has helped to make it nothing short of absolutely breath taking ,
K - Awwww this is so sweet! It means so much to me that you feel this way about us! ♥
B - Yes thank you very much, we are definitely blessed, its a shame it took 12 years though
K - Loving this simply amazing, genuine feeling ♥ — with B
B - You are simply amazing and genuinely perfect and wonderful in every way I ♥ you
This is what I've been seeing every day from these 2 since they got together a couple of weeks ago. It makes me feel a little queasy. Maybe I'm just jealous, or maybe people should be telling one another these things rather than forcing everyone else to read about how much they love one another every day. Don't get me wrong, bragging about your loved one occasionally is fine, it just doesn't have the same "awww" factor when you overdo it.
"We're developing a new citizenry. One that will be very selective about cereals and automobiles, but won't be able to think."
— Rod Serling
"Chuck calls Noah fortnightly on his bakelite rotary phone and gives him publisher's insider information and stock tips."- Tuffy
So they got together after waiting/secretly loving each other for 12 years?
That's totally vom worthy.
Ugh.
I hate it when couple say how much they love each other over facebook.
Get a grip people!
My best friend was killed in January of 06. I still have his contact on IM because to delete him from there would, maybe, feel too final. I kept his last voicemail, from the day before he died, until the phine company finally said NO WE HAZ A NEW SYSTEMS NAO!
And, yeah, I'll occasionally post on his FB sometimes. A lot of us do though.
This is why we can't have nice things.
And, yeah, I'll occasionally post on his FB sometimes. A lot of us do though.
You reminded me that I saved my friend's emails too. I can't delete them!
Also - she has two books she published (self-published through lulu) and I've started reading them both, but I can't finish. I feel like that's the last word from her. If I read those, she has nothing left to tell me.
They are really good too. I think all profits go to fund moyamoya research. (which is what she died of)
I have printed out emails, that were not to me, that my friend Michael wrote to his pastor and some other people shortly before he passed. His wife gave them to me. All I have left of him. And they are private and not even to me but every single bit of his personality shine through them, minus the part I loved him most for, which was his sense of humor.
I don't like reading them. But I do.
I don't really know what he means by that. He usually comes by the restaurant to hang out and chat with me at least once a week. We went to high school together and almost dated, but I lost interest after being led along. The girl he's with also went to high school with us, so maybe that means he liked her from afar since high school? Every time we talk though, he tells me about a few more girls he kissed/had crushes on during high school, so I don't really see how it's just been 12 years of liking one girl.
"We're developing a new citizenry. One that will be very selective about cereals and automobiles, but won't be able to think."
— Rod Serling
"Chuck calls Noah fortnightly on his bakelite rotary phone and gives him publisher's insider information and stock tips."- Tuffy
He's just romanticised the whole thing in his head to make it seem more interesting.
One of my "friends" on facebook (I put it in quotes because I used to work with her and would never request her, I accepted to be polite). Well, she's giving birth and giving status updates the whole time.
Last one was something like, "The heads sticking out now, only a matter of time!"
Haha. I'm so gonna do that!
VOIDH!
This is why we can't have nice things.
I know a lot of my status things have been about baby and being preggers, but I'm trying to not go too overboard with scan and belly pics and stuff.
I know other people want to share that stuff, but I'm not that keen.
I had this one girl who I worked with years ago get on FB chat and pester and pester me about taking a photo of my belly.
Actual Conversation: (She asked me before this conversation about a belly photo and I ignored her)
J: oh u should put pics up of u being pregnant!
Me: no thanks
my belly is getting so big!
J: id so love to see it
Me: I don't think I'll be taking a photo of it and putting it on facebook anytime soon. I might put my scan pics up though after friday.
J: oh really why?
Me: I don't think belly photos are nice
J: any reason why?
Me: not really, stretch marks and wierd belly buttons and it's just a personal thing.
J: true but with ur first baby would u ever take photos just for u to see?
Me: no
J: oh really?
Me: nope, I'm just not fussed about having a photo of my tummy. There will be photos taken of me with a big preggers tummy, and that's enough for me.
J: what ya mean?
Me: I mean at work and events and stuff photos will get taken. But I'm not going to take a photo of just my tummy.
J: oh fair enough
sarah im sorry to ask but were u planning to have a baby?
Me: yes
J: oh neat as u going to et married?
Me: probably eventually, we're not engaged or anything
are you?
J: we talk about it but not offically lol
Me: right
J: dont worry
Me: worry?
J: sweet as
Me: I'm not worried about getting married or not getting married.
J: anyway lol
Someone's a tad dense.
This is why we can't have nice things.
That's exactly what she is.
You promised you wouldn't tell anyone about that conversation!
Really though, sorry for my own pestering about the same thing in chat! I only meant like a shirt down profile shot though.
Haha Pepper.
That was not directed at you AT ALL. I promise.
This sounds funny, but it's fine coming from you, I'm closer to you then I am with this girl. She was just so persistent and annoying.
To me, it's quite a personal thing, and I talk about and share personal things with you guys. More than with this dense chick.
At some point I might share a CLOTHED photo of me and my belly on FB or whatever.
It's kind of awkward for me at the mo with my best friend who has the same due date as me, I don't want it to feel like a competition.
Of course... but let us know if you win.
I totally gonna win with the bestest baby ever, of course.
Some of the posts here reminded me of that Fauxtographer site with some of the worst pregnant belly photos ever. My friend wanted me to photograph her and her pregnant belly but I couldn't bring myself to do it. For one I hate doing portraits, secondly pregnant bellies are hard to photograph and make them look beautiful even when you know what you're doing.
Lately I have been interpreting everything I type as "too dramatic". So, even though I have started up on reading my forums and fb again, I tend not to post much.I keep thinking "Tis better to be silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt".
Mom's gonna fix it all soon.
I have friends with a large range of people - but when I see a 20 year old white [pale curly haired doe eyed Christian] girl quoting Kanye West, Jay-Z & Chris Brown lyrics on a daily basis, and throwing multiple "niggers" in there with out even trying to make it not so painfully ridiculous, I draw the line. I wish I could burn facebook. Or at least delete mine, too bad it's the only way to stay in touch with distant relatives.
This is why I stick with cosmic facts, quoting scientists, writers and the occasional "I hope you're all having a happy holiday." I'm so tired of reading about people's drug habits on the public internet, it seriously makes me want to not be associated with people I apparently know more & more. No one even tries to be discreet anymore.
"The universe is not required to be in perfect harmony with human ambition." - Carl Sagan
That new couple I mentioned before? It's officially out of control. He's hinted toward proposing and they've been together maybe a month. He's been engaged twice before. This poor guy falls waaay too hard.
Today
B: I don't ever want to go back to the day before you
Yesterday
B: Every second with you is a lifetime of bliss
Monday
K: Thank you so much for being so good to me and E. It means so much to me that you genuinely care and love both of us. I love you sooooo much ♥
B: You are more than welcome, It is the least I could do for all of the happiness and joy you two bring to kit heart and my life, you two are simply amazing and will always mean the world to me, I love you both more than life the universe and everything
Early Monday
B: Okay so it's official I have found the most amazing and beautiful woman in the world, I am sooooo lucky for her to have walked back into my life after all these years
Friday
B: I wish I could control my brain, a mixture of euphoria and pain, lots of smiles and a couple of tears, full of love and an abundant fear, my walls were strong but somehow you broke through, and someday I hope to be one with you.
K: You are so amazing and have the biggest heart! I am so glad that you are in our lives and am glad that you've let the wall down for me! I love you so much!
B: I couldn't be who I am without you and e in my world, I love you two, you make life beautiful
"We're developing a new citizenry. One that will be very selective about cereals and automobiles, but won't be able to think."
— Rod Serling
"Chuck calls Noah fortnightly on his bakelite rotary phone and gives him publisher's insider information and stock tips."- Tuffy
That is pretty ridiculous. Even if they had been together for a while it would be ridiculous. Not to mention tactless.
Double post!
This girl....
It's kinda BS when you're playing a game that requires a team to fully communicate and one guy just wants to sit there and send messages to girls. Go play free for all where you're not hurting the rest of us by sitting there and allowing the other team to run by you while you're "preoccupied". Ugh! Back to bed!
Back to bed for me I guess. Got up hoping to play Black Ops with some people, but apparently they don't wanna play with me. I can definitely already see how my week alone is gonna be. Great.
5 minutes 21 seconds, 4 caps, 4 kills, 2 deaths. Wow, that was a quick match!
Wow really?! I just got kicked from a Black Ops party cause I'm a chick? Dudes wife is an epic bitch!
Step away from the fucking xbox, my god.