Facebook is not: a confessional, a shrink's office, a diary, etc.
It's even better when kids write like that in essays.
I would give them an F and ask them to rewrite it in English.
“The man of knowledge must be able not only to love his enemies but also to hate his friends.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
Damien, that's ME!
at least your offspring is adorable!
Magic!
Creepy magic.
yes creepy indeed. mmm
“The man of knowledge must be able not only to love his enemies but also to hate his friends.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
i plugged in that URL and forgot that i had this on my timeline as a milestone:
"2011: Realized that cheese is versatile."
it really is.
Magic!
Creepy magic.
I heard you can't opt out of it or deactivate it or anything yet. It pretty much just runs on an algorithm. I can't see mine because it's blocked at work so i'll have to look at it later.
It's even better when kids write like that in essays.
I would give them an F and ask them to rewrite it in English.
I've heard stories. Be happy that you have the more educated kids. My aunts high school kids don't even know how to read or write. Completely illiterate trying to fill out job applications!
My friend (who gets through guys like clean socks) has just broken up with the new boyfriend she introduced us to at the weekend. They'd only met a month ago (internet dating) and were already an official couple. I am secretly glad because he seemed like a dick! They stayed over on Friday night and he just seemed really irritable (despite me trying to be hostess with the most-ess). It didn't help that my boyfriend unwittingly slagged off his car, and he seemed to think I was a racist (... is it racist to ask someone about their ancestery? I thought I phrased it in a sensitive sort of way, FFS!).
ANYWAY - you know when someone breaks up and on Facebook it says, for example:
Charlene went from being "in a relationship" to "single".
Her friends have been writing these comments:
"Good riddance, he sounded like a twat!"
"You can do so much better!"
... It's also got a few likes.
Awkward! But I hope the guy sees it.
This kid I used to hang out with (because of mutual friends) keeps posting all this political, philosophical, and other such spammy nonsense on facebook. Usually, I would just scroll right through it, but he's been throwing in all this bullshit about cancer miracle cures and shit. Not only that, but the comments some of his friends make can be even more ignorant. Normally, I wouldn't say anything, but it's been irking me lately.
"We're developing a new citizenry. One that will be very selective about cereals and automobiles, but won't be able to think."
— Rod Serling
"Chuck calls Noah fortnightly on his bakelite rotary phone and gives him publisher's insider information and stock tips."- Tuffy
It really bugs me when people do that sort of thing too. I have a friend that sent me some video that was supposed to be some naturopathic doctor explaining how HIV is a myth and conspiracy, knowing I have a family member who is HIV positive (that was the reason she sent it!), and when my friend had a rapidly growing breast tumor the other friend kept going about how it should be treated with juice and whatnot.
I'm all for treating a cold with garlic and so on, but some health issues you don't mess around with. Plus, it is all fine and dandy to abstractedly imagine curing disease with something as non invasive as drinking cranberry juice, totally different story when it is your loved one's life at stake.
Exactly. I've always been one to go for natural if possible. But I'm not losing my kid because I decided to experiment with "natural cures." No, no, NO.
"We're developing a new citizenry. One that will be very selective about cereals and automobiles, but won't be able to think."
— Rod Serling
"Chuck calls Noah fortnightly on his bakelite rotary phone and gives him publisher's insider information and stock tips."- Tuffy
Some friends of my friends on Facebook are homophobes, and now that Facebook is all about showing what my friends are liking and commenting on, I can witness their homophobic ignorance and it infuriates me.
I'm not enjoying the thing with my friends being able to see what I like.
I put effort into not sharing anything political or controversial most of the time, because of the real life people I know that the call me and want to have lengthy conversations about their opposing view points.
But now even liking a photo gets me these calls, like last night. "Oh I saw you shared such and such on facebook? I was a bit alarmed about that?"
No I didn't share anything.
"Oh you're right, you just liked it? so you like that?"
Being able to see that I like a picture a friend you don't even know posted and then calling me about it. Great.
Creepy.
I'm glad that I'm not on facebook.
But now even liking a photo gets me these calls, like last night. "Oh I saw you shared such and such on facebook? I was a bit alarmed about that?"
No I didn't share anything.
"Oh you're right, you just liked it? so you like that?"
If I used facebook and someone did that to me, I would laugh dead in their ear until one of us hung up, and then I would call back and laugh.
And then, the next day, I would go to their house and sit in their house and laugh at them and ask them to make me a coffee, and take a sip of the coffee and then leave it and waste it while laughing at them in their house. I would tell my friends about this and we would all go to the house and laugh and have coffee and waste it and laugh. Now I'm half-tempted to go back on facebook and like a bunch of outrageous things until this happens.
Excellent solution Ritt.
It is.
The amount of people who have fucked with me via facebook in the past year is actually quite alarming.
I've been screamed at, I've been (real life) friend dumped, I've been called up and "called out", I've been called an over emotional female, I've had people write me with the nasty bullshit they are afraid to say to my face the day before, I've been blocked and my husband has been messaged afterwards about "good luck with that one, you're a real man for putting up with her".
And every time over the most innocuous and meaningless drivel, where I was just minding my business and not attempting to ruffle anyone up at all.
You guys are the only thing that makes even logging on there worth it at all anymore. I've even deactivated my account a couple of times just to be bullied into reactivating it.
I seriously am hating facebook.
You can just delete everyone else 
About ready to do exactly that.
I did sort everyone into lists, so only specific people can see what I post when I want them to see it.
I've been blocked and my husband has been messaged afterwards about "good luck with that one, you're a real man for putting up with her".
James has had some fun with this one. It has been a few months and he still antagonizes and trolls the guy when he is bored. So that is amusing. (real life person, btw)
Somebody has been losing their shit on Facebook several times during the last couple of days, and it's so awkward. I now removed that person from my newsfeed. Uff.
Gah, I think I'm going to have to hide/delete some more people too.
When I was working in retail I befriended this guy who also worked in the same toy department. He was really nice but not very bright. Fast-forward six years and he is now a model and likes to impart his modelling photos and 'YOLO' wisdom onto Facebook every day/hour:
i.e.
Don't go broke trying to look rich ...! Act your wage . Morning btw
I'm really glad he's doing well, but it is all a bit cringy.
If the modeling falls through, he could always write fortune cookies.
All this and that about what Facebook isn't, anyone ever taken the time to say what facebook is?
Facebook is what you make of it! To me it's an email account, cat picture album and soap opera.
This woman I barely know had this breakdown one night where she updated her status every few minutes talking about how her marriage was over, how much she hated him, how he was always at the rugby club, etc etc. She has kids too, so embarrassing. I hid her from my feed because it was so uncomfortable. She's still married though and apparently she does this stuff a lot.
That's about right.
I love reading my news feed, because it tends to be filled with interesting/fun things from you guys.
It's also nice to stay updated on my family, being so far away and all. 
The only reason I keep it is to have some way to keep in closer contact with you guys as well as the people back home, and anyone in random countries around the world.
The amount of burden lifted off of me since I cancelled mine a week or two ago is amazing.
Pretty sad to realise how much some part of the internet was killing your psyche.
It is one thing to be in contact with the different internet friends I hav made on different sites over the years, but to have direct contact with the old friends and family members every single day and have their daily drama all filling my head and space was just too much. It was fucking me head over so bad. I seriously do not need to know every time my second cousin is in a crappy ambiguous mood and I do not need all these jerks messaging me with their moods and make believe accusations and guilt trips uhg.
I feel so much better since I cancelled it.
People I know want to talk to me they can call or write me a real letter, maybe i will answer and maybe I will write back, everybody can think what they want to say through and decide whether it is worth the effort before vomiting all over each other.
Luckily no one in my family except my sister has a Facebook account, and my older friends aren't too dramatic. But I did hide from my newsfeed everyone who supports the Socialist Party. Daily status updates and throwing shit around is too much.
Well, when you have people posting all of their political opinions and the second you make an allusion to disagreeing they call you on the phone and want to know what the deal is, when you have some idiot of an ass you don't know trying to set up fights and writing on his wall that he is compiling a Hit List because you told him to back off with the sexual innuendos directed towards your distressed female family member, when you have guilt trips from your childhood friend about not loving her because you referred to someone else as your best friend on a photo, and people trolling you and being as asshole as possible on the rare occasion you do post an upset status, and people calling you yelling at you about being low class because they didn't get a joke that had the F word in it, and people refusing to tell you what you did to upset them after someone else told lies about you, and people trying to sell you products everyday from the pyramid scheme they are caught up with, and people calling you a whore after catching wind of the photos you posted to another site...
time to walk away.
People are idiots.
Amber, I'm glad you are feeling much better after having gotten rid of it. You don't need that drama.
Yes, they are.
But like I said, I feel so much better now that I have removed all of that drama.
I think 2013 will be the year of drama reduction- if you have nothing of positive value to add to my life, or if my presence in yours is of a negative effect, then we will part ways, hopefully as cordially as possible.
Or, you know, get some new friends.
This is why we can't have nice things.
Yes, that is part of the plan.
I have to remove the infection that makes being around me undesirable as a part of that, you know. If my head is too fucked up over the negative forces in my life why would anyone new with anything healthy or positive to contribute want to know me or be a part of what I have to offer?
I wish Amber was my friend in real life.
I want to be friends with you in real life too, Irina.
Ladies. This is real life. And you are friends. You just can't hang out. I mean, that's like saying that none of you are my real life friends, but I say that's BALONEY!
Anyway, what part of me saying I'm putting effort into removing the toxic sources in my life so I may be mentally and emotionally healthy again requires a recommendation that I should "get some new friends"?
I don't have any friends to begin with. Not really. People that I was close with once, but time has changed that or preferences in lifestyle have made that very difficult. Nobody that I really click with at all that I can do fun things with and see or talk to frequently. Nobody that is going to excitedly recommend me a new book or invite me to a show of some sort or bug me to come for drinks or dinner, nobody that will accept my invitations or not roll their eyes at me when I say I have a book for them.
Telling a lonley person to get some new friends is like, telling a lonely person to get some new friends.
Telling a lonley person to get some new friends is like, telling a lonely person to get some new friends.
QFT
I don't have any friends to begin with. Not really. People that I was close with once, but time has changed that or preferences in lifestyle have made that very difficult. Nobody that I really click with at all that I can do fun things with and see or talk to frequently. Nobody that is going to excitedly recommend me a new book or invite me to a show of some sort or bug me to come for drinks or dinner, nobody that will accept my invitations or not roll their eyes at me when I say I have a book for them.
Telling a lonley person to get some new friends is like, telling a lonely person to get some new friends.
This. Maybe I'm to blame sometimes for not keeping in touch, but still. I only hang out with some highschool friends, and only when they ask me out. It sucks whenever I want to go out to a play or a concert or just an exhibition or like WALK because it's nice outside and I'm like, who the fuck do I call? But then I think of how many hours I save and have for myself and cheer up.
Yeah. Not having anyone to even just go for a walk with is very frustrating. not having anyone who thinks that art exhibit or book show you heard about sounds interesting is brutal. Solitude in those activities is nice, when chosen, when it is by no choice you start to feel pretty empty after a while.
I have always enjoyed having some sort of large group of people that are cool or interesting I can associate with in a fun environment away from home when I feel like being out, people I will bump into in various fun places, but who do not become involved in my private life at all, and then maybe just two or three very close friends that I click really well with that I may be fully myself with and who understand all my idiosyncrasies and who I feel the need to keep nothing private from.
Right now I really have neither.
My close friends I do not feel close with at all anymore, for the reasons in my previous post, and I have no activities I do or go to outside in the world often anymore.
There used to always be people I knew at the different music shows I would go to, could show up alone and find your group and so on, but people aren't around so much anymore. I was really involved with Occupy a year and a half ago, and began to make some friends, but chose to drop out of that scene for a combination of too many people being full of shit and it becoming apparent that things may not always be safe due to the police violence and the aggression of some of the people who were involved in the larger crowd.
I need to find some sort of thing outside of home, where I will meet people and be involved with activities I find worthwhile. Having easy access around the city is a first step.
It's even better when kids write like that in essays.