Buzzkill of the Day

This puts the halters on it for a bit though.
It's so weird how I can't stand him one day but then I don't want to lose my best friend the next. He can be such a dick with his uninformed bullshit opinions but then we have so many laughs! Ah well, it's still not right. I really need to get my head straight about it and give myself a chance to be in a healthy relationship.

I had no idea peasants were still a thing.

I thought my husband was the jealous type. Holy shit, Amber. And this is the same guy that will disappear for days at a time and you never ask him why or wherefore? Those kind of double standards eat at my soul. I'm really sorry you've been treated like that for what is obviously a pretty long time. You're too good a person to have your identity bound up in and threatened by a toxic relationship like that.

He wasn't happy about me writing those things, but we talked a lot and he says he isn't going to be like that any more. Its not fair to him or me. I guess we will see. Maybe reading me tell it all to other people instead of trying to respond to him helped.

I always tell him it isn't his job to hold me accountable. That is the job of friends and family and of oneself, his job is just to treat me well and me the same to him, to be kind to each other. And speak up if something hurts. He never understands, has never. So now he says he does finally understand and the idea of having the burden of needing to search for and point out my wrongs off of his shoulders feels so much better.

I don't know how much better I feel. Trepidation, I suppose. At least I didn't feel like just offing myself all day today, like yesterday.

No offense, but when someone is like that, they can't just say "I won't be like that any more". That's not how it works. I really do hope it works out for you guys though.

Yeah. I know.

I need to make myself not dependent on him, so if things don't get better... there's the door.

I'm not trying be some victim that forgives abuse as soon as the person is sweet, nor do I want to continue to dish out my own brand of abuse on someone I love.

We will see. I have a lot of things I need to work on about myself, with or without a partner, my shit is messed up currently and I don't want it to be.

Amber, I hope that he gets over himself.
You have a creative soul. It has been your saving grace. You are def the type where, there are so many things going on in your head, that you rarely get bored.

We love you, in platonic sense. hahha! Seriously, you know that people here are more than a post or blurb(but, blurb* happens). They share art, have feelings, tell funny jokes to brighten your day and bare gifts from the heart.
And are here for you. Except the spambots. They are fraud friends.

They are.

The Rural population (% of total population) in Romania was last reported at 45.40 in 2010, according to a World Bank report published in 2012.

We still have places where kids walk 5 miles to get to school, through forests and horrible places and they hear the wolves in the morning and dogs chase them, but we're building that fucking humongous cathedral instead of doing something normal with the money.

The word peasant is so old fashioned though.

I'd just say they were rural kids, or people who lived in poverty.

NZ has really shitty child poverty.

I watched an Anthony Bourdain where he went to Bucharest and literally everything went wrong! I'd love to visit one day though.

Cold much worse today =( I have 3 days left to write 3 essays of 750 words each and you heard it here guys: today I will write 1 and a half. Check me about it tonight and I will tell the truth.

Woo, you can do it! What are the essays on?

I saw that episode as well! I love his shows.

I'm rooting for you!

Wordsworth 'Michael' then G.B. Shaw 'Mrs Warren's Profession'
Tomorrow Brontë 'The Tenant of Wildfell Hall'
It won't be too hard, it's just that boring and time consuming type of work, searching for quotes and researching criticism etc.

Yay to getting this piece of work out the way though, can't wait! Thank you guys!

Do you remember where he went? I don't watch his shows anymore, I didn't even know he was here.

Here's his blog about it: http://blog.travelchannel.com/anthony-bourdain/read/romania-what-the-hel...

Sorry, I have a terrible memory! Probably best to just let him say what happened.

Haha, I don't even know what he's talking about - The Dracula Motel? That's not even in Bucharest. I looked at the show on YouTube and all I can say is, the city centre (the part when he says 'this gray and distant country') looks a million times better now, there are over 120 pubs, cafes, restaurants, clubs on only 5 or 6 streets.

Yeah, I agree, I think peasant has a very specific connotation in English, and it's kind of outdated. Perhaps somewhere in some shitty part of the world, peasants still exist due to some indentured servitude and bad laws, but I think people who live in the country are rural.

And child poverty is a really sad thing. Kids are the ones with the least amount of control and they often suffer the most.

I've had temporary contracts for a year, and now finally the university will be publishing my position as a permanent position. It'll still have to go the official round, me having to apply and going to an interview, etc. My boss was wondering if I was interested in getting the job (which of course I am, otherwise I end up being unemployed), and she told me that if so, they'd have to make the advertisement for the job so that it fits me perfectly. Why? Because I only have a Bachelor's degree and haven't worked at the university that long yet. If someone with a Master's degree and more experience at the university applies for the job, they'll get it before I do. It seems ridiculous to me, as I've done the actual job, have shown that I'm good at it, and that I can handle additional tasks, but this is somehow the way it works, and it's frustrating.

I wonder if this is how it works for every company. In that case, how would I get another job with just my Bachelor's degree? It's pretty standard that Norwegians have Master's degrees.

Well, for one, I think it's really great that they're willing to do that for you to help you get the job. As for if it works that way for most companies, it depends on the sector, I think. In universities, I think they want Masters degrees because you're in an institution of higher learning and it looks better for them if people have advanced degrees. That's got nothing to do with your qualifications and abilities, so much as the reputation of the institution. AS for other types of companies, I don't know how it works in Norway, but it is not uncommon for people with a higher degree to actually be PASSED OVER because the boss knows they can demand higher pay, so they'll take someone with a lower degree, or even no degree at all and just train them.

Of course, you can't do that with all jobs, but it does really sting when that happens to people in the states especially, as so often people put a huge emphasis on getting higher level degrees, and then you find out it doesn't always get you much more than a pile of debt.

I don't think (in the UK) you have to advertise, but it is a formality that most companies seem to follow. L's school recently had to give him an interview (his year 'Maternity cover' contract is coming to an end next term), even though he was going to be made a permanent member of staff anyway.

That's so ridiculous, Imke. It's just all the bureaucracy and faffing around. I don't understand! I don't understand the time and effort and money wasted on this stuff when they have an employee already, it doesn't make sense to me. I know they have to do it that way but I don't understand why.

No, she didn't put it like that, but I talked to a co-worker and she said that that's basically how it works. They wouldn't be able to defend to the board the fact that they would pick me over someone with a higher education and more experience.

My job does not require a Master's degree.

Yeah, I guess I'm in the same situation now. They want to keep me, it's just a matter of finding out how.

This is exactly why I'm frustrated.

It's like common sense vs. business-sense. The two will never meet.

Imke, you deserve the job without question. They will be cheating themselves to hire anyone else.

Right, of course there is a rural population, but who still calls them peasants? Apparently Romanians do. It just has such a negative connotation.

My mom just called- she's in the hospital. I feel like she's in the ER once a fucking month at this point. She's always "fainting" (drinking too much) or has pneumonia or bronchitis. I feel like an asshole but she's useless. She over reacts, refuses to take care of herself, etc. She's been sick for months and doesn't go to the doctor. I feel like she's going to croak and it's going to be a boy who cried wolf scenario. It's like any time she doesn't want to go to work she goes to the hospital. She loves being sick or something and she's going to get fired and I'm so glad she's really not much more than a Facebook friend to me at this point in my life. I can't handle people who just cannot deal with being at all responsible.

So sorry Skydoll. Really hope the scenario gets better for her. Hoping for a miracle to happen, and she gets a moment of clarity and the strength to fix it. You deserve a good momma to be proud of you and focus on what an intelligent talented daughter she has.

She sounds like the mom on Why Stop Now starring Jesse Eisenberg and Tracey Morgan.

Sounds like my father-in-law. He finally drank himself to death last year.* That was not pretty.

Also. This is a peasant and/or typical Romaian rural poor person:

Or was it year before? Meh, time.

James mom is like that. Drunken and sick with whatever the last commercial for whatever disorder or pill was that came on. She is really difficult and abnormal. People like that suck.

Buzzkiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiilllllllllllllllllllll:

My narwhal showed up.

better now than later while I am out and unprepared I suppose. Still. Grumble.

Oh God.

I forgot we'd given "narwhal" that connotation.

Sort of completely and horribly changes the meaning of this doodle I did.

Lily just asked why that little girl was eating a narwhal.

I gotta stop letting her look over my shoulder.

If you think about it, narwhal is Nature's Perfect Foodsource: Meat On A Stick!

I'm starving. Hopefully I will get to go home and eat something soon.

You must not have been present for the narwhal conversation, if all of this made you hungry.

Narwhal will always mean pie to me.
Shark week is shark week.
And pony is shark week as well.

This is also horrible.

aawwwww, he's earning his red wings. How cute.

Um, no. What you were talking about did not make me hungry. My being starving was unrelated to what you were talking about. This is the buzzkill thread and being very very hungry and not being able to eat is a major buzzkill in my book.

I was teasing you Melody.

I am aware that your post was unrelated, it was just funny in the context of the posts before it.

I hope you have been able to eat so you can see humor again. I never can when I am hungry, hunger ruins all clarity of thought.

Imke, I meant to say that the uni I work at has to follow a lot of policies and procedures for advertising jobs. They legally have to advertise the position, even if there's an obvious internal candidate.

So far today I'm having no buzzkill!

Hurrah!

This cold, seriously. I'm so upset! I was sick from Christmas Eve until about two weeks ago. I had two courses of antibiotics and everything. I was only just feeling properly like myself again, with more energy and stuff, and now I've got this.

Being sick is such a bummer. Will you have to take antibiotics again?

I've caught a cold, I think, and my nose is stuffy and it sucks.

Nah I shouldn't think so. Before I was coughing very badly and my phlegm had all blood in it and stuff. Hopefully this time it's just a normal cold and won't linger.

I feel like I have a cold but I think it's just allergies with the weather changes that we've been having. My nose keeps leaking and my eyes are itchy. It stinks and this really belongs in the ailment thread.

I have a cold and feel like crud.