Buzzkill of the Day
Someone told me this--it made sense to me and your last comments made me think of it.
No matter what you do:
- 5% of the people like you unconditionally
- 5% think your an ass and will hate you no matter what you say or do
- the other 90% doesn't give a shit one way or the other
That being said, be yourself. Other people said it better... but it sounds like she's the one with the problem.
No matter what you do:
- 5% of the people like you unconditionally
- 5% think your an ass and will hate you no matter what you say or do
- the other 90% doesn't give a shit one way or the other
That being said, be yourself. Other people said it better... but it sounds like she's the one with the problem.
I actually really really like that. It's a good break down. 
Buzzkill, why not my relationships all seemto be around that area anyways. Cassie got kind of wierd becaue i wasnt seeing her this last week as much as I normally do. I think she the idea that I need some space. So I told her that my heads and ehart ar a mess I dont want anything serious. She told me she was cool with well everything. Just is attracted to me and likes to have sex. Ended up seeing her this weekend. Might not have been the best idea but it still seems casual.
But all I want to do this week is go home after work, organize my stuff and not deal with people.
So the buzzkill of this.
Relationships of any sort are fucking nuts.
Fano, Good god damn luck.
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
And that, dear Noah, is why I am single. Want to be by myself and not deal with people far too often for anyone to put up with.
Ya I am enjoying being single. Even this thing with Cassie is getting to be a little to much. I dont want to have to care. I dont want people to care about me(in that sort of way)
Irina I am moving to wherever it is you live and we can go out. Pick up strangers, have them buy us drink and have an awesome bachelor(ette) pad. We will have all the Culties come hang out with us and start a soft core porn site to pay the bills.
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
Fine, on condition that my strangers don't buy me fucking orange juice like that weirdo a few weeks ago.
Dibs on the bed.
I sleep a lot and sofas just don't work. I also can't share a bed, and that qualifies as a buzzkill, I guess. I mean, I can, I'm small, but I lie awake all night and toss and turn and only doze off in the morning. It doesn't matter how large the bed is, it's always like this.
seems like grey area
Yes!
You genuinely care about people and want friends, yet they leave you alone. I can't stand people and I avoid them like the plague and they never leave me alone. I see too much proof that people are designed to ruin other people's plans. Sometimes when I meet people I think to myself, "Pretend to be interested in this person so that they don't like you..."
The guy who sells me weed said he wouldn't sell me weed anymore because I never hang out at his place with his girlfriend and other idiot potheads, so I had to smoke a joint with him just to be able to pick up. I feel that, considering that this guy is a dealer, he should be mostly concerned with the financial side of things.
You gotta remember, a lot of what you're feeling is likely misplacement of some kind, due to you living in an unfamiliar environment. Do you wait until you're lonely to message someone? Next time you text someone try to think less about it, be less serious. Send the text and then go watch kung fu movies and lose your phone for a few hours. Text someone and say HEY IM GOING FOR STEAK YOU COMIN and if they say they want Chinese food then say NO STEAK FUCK YOU ON MY WAY TO STEAKS. Steak is the food of kings. Kung Fu movies are the food of kings. People out there are uncouth; their faces, by the horde, are just waiting to be told to fuck off. Who wouldn't want steak? Why even deal with those people? Empires weren't built on Chinese food. Except for China. You should get a motorcycle.
That's pretty great advise. Fano, you need a motorcycle more than anyone's ever needed a motorcycle before.
James Dean, sitting on a motorcycle for the first time.
James Dean, approximately 10 minutes later.
Would.
Its okay I am a cuddle whore, Chances are ai will get drunk and spoon you even if you do toss and turn. And if not you I will have a dog or some strange lady. We will have to get a couple beds.
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
Fuck it I am going to get an island and live there. Any of you can join me. We will have lots of cool animals.
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
James Dean, approximately 10 minutes later.
Vrmmvrmvrmvrm....vrmvrmvrmvrm....
Lady-would?
Si vis pacem, para bellum
Now she tells me I owe her 80 bucks for my old cellphone bill. I call bullshit and I am going to ask for a copy of the last 3 bills. I paid her a prorated charge last month and Just paid my bill for this month.
Im getting my ac unit and bookshelf back.
Now should I also get all the plates and glasses back from her too?
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
Fano, you hang in there. This is some good advice you are getting(from everyone in cultworld). You have a great opportunity to enjoy something, that other people only dream about.
You have a superior sense of humor, and you are a sweet guy. People can be so fickle.
Building trust is crucial. And that takes time.
My grandma always said, "Every pot has a lid." Which always made me think, that sometimes, there may be only one lid or many. But most importantly there is at least one lid. And I'm a damn decent pot, so I can wait and do my own simmer in the mean time.
Hope that made sense.
Don't let them have control over your feelings. Don't give your power away.
Don't give your superpowers away.
Im getting my ac unit and bookshelf back.
Now should I also get all the plates and glasses back from her too?
Hmm,...do you get hungry or thirsty? If so, yes.
If you only get a little hungry or thirsty, then get a few. You should gauge this to your appetite.
Trapped in my head this morning. Hated myself. Hated life. Killing myself was not worth the effort.
Things aren't great but they aren't really good either. They just are.
Wish I was more mature in my attitude towards everything. There are people who are naturally good. Thy actually want to put good out into the world. My attitude towards everything is...whatever. Also I wish I liked the people I work with more, but it's honestly like being in high school.
When am I going to sit down and write that damn script for a YouTube channel? I need a project for something fun that I actually want to do.
Tv. Video games. Internet. These are the human equivalent of leaving the radio on while you're out so the dog doesn't know it's alone.
But really. I'm good.
Okay Tmobile fucked up, have to call them tonight and deal with someone who doesnt know english for shit.
And Mike I know the feelings. Same boat. Same shit different day.
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
A script for a youtube channel?
Tell us more!!
Oh great. Not only is my company changing insurance providers, but my premium is going up and my benefits are decreasing. Oh, yeah, and there's a $3K deductible. One simple google search finds a shit ton of complaints about this new provider. And this decision was made by our "HR Director" (she was hired as an "Executive Assistant" three years ago...from a bank...that the feds took over)THIS MONTH. Open enrollment lasts for the next two weeks, after that, no insurance if you haven't switched at that point. I have a family. We can't not have insurance, period. Fucking idiot.
The only good thing to come out of this is that we'll be able to switch to Drew's family coverage when they have their open enrollment in October. It's a much better policy with a better premium.
ALSO, some jackass outbid me on ebay for Mega Man Battle Network 6 Cybeast Falzar at the last minute. It's not like there are a ton of those just laying around, and my kid only likes the old games that are hard to find on ebay or Amazon and I want to be able to get him all the stuff he's asked for for Christmas (cause the boy's so humble...he hardly asked for anything).
I found another copy, though. But that one still had a case and the booklet thing.
Still....I was so close!
I have all the angries this evening. I'm ill as a hornet.
Haha, Dan, I totally agree with you. I don't usually wait for serious stuff. I start with, "Hey, how was your day?" Some basic shit like that. Or a random fact about something I saw on the metro or whatever. I try to make it light. And yeah, it's try I'm probably feeling displaced, but my French friend also hates it here, because people are fucking whack. Your post reminded me of something she said to me on the phone just now. Some kid in a movie was talking about The Scarlet Letter and he described it as two assholes surrounded by assholes. I feel as though I'm surrounded by people who are all slightly fucked in the head. I mean, I am too, but in a silly way, not in a paranoid way. She got assaulted verbally on the metro today and no one even helped or said anything. It's so shit. And fuck yes, I need a motorcycle. I want one so bad.
Amii, I think I'm done looking for new friends to make. Or at least, I'm not gonna try so hard. I'm just gonna be content with the people I have and let the rest be. I'm just sort of disappointed with the way people have turned out to be here.
I'm really interested in Ludwig's thoughts on this whole thing.
ludwig´s on his way to work so i´m giving my two cents.
french women, especially parisian women have the biggest ego on the planet. most of them just fall out of bed in the morning, light a fucking gauloises and are the queen of the day. any day. one reason why they are that way is that french men flirt 24/7. often they flirt just for the sake of flirting, it´s kinda impolite not to. so french women and constantly ego boosted which makes them moody, picky and totally aware of the fact that there is always someone out there who wants to shag you. always. which does go for pretty much any women on the planet but the french are one of the few who really know it.
so how to hook up with a french girl? make yourself rare, mention that you don´t like smokers and get a fucking motorbike.
I just received a fine from CHP for $871 dollars for my DUI incident that happened two years ago. They're giving me a month to pay up. Merry Fucking Christmas to me. So much for buying a car when I get back.
ouch.
I understand I deserve the consequences but today was not the day I needed to receive that letter. I have my last finals to prepare for and this threw a giant as wrench in focusing on what I need to get done in less than 10 hours from now. Looks like I won't be sleeping tonight.
Only one more episode left of Gossip Girl. Last night's episode ended with such drama.
you have a month, just ignore it for the next 30 days, or at least till you´re back from vacation !
That sucks, Jaz.
*DEATHHUGS*
I hopw you can still enjoy your holiday and good luck with your exams.
Yeah, I will. It just sucks. I worked so hard to save that money to get a fresh start and now I practically have to start all over again and get set back on other bills. I almost want to cancel my trip so I can use that money just to pay this stupid fine off instead.
Don't you do that! You need that holiday.
Thanks Sarah and Barbara. I have to talk this over with my mom and see what I should do. I would hate to have to cancel yet another trip that I really want to go on.
don´t cancel your trip ! you were looking forward to it so much. go on your trip, enjoy the hell out of it, came back, buy a car a bit later.
Yeah, I'm not thinking rationally right now. I'm just so pissed and exhausted. I do need this trip. I'm gonna call to see if I can get an extension for the fine.
Jazzy, any sort of letter from the government, especially when money is owed, always sounds far more threatening than what is reality.
Trust me, between driving fines, dog tickets, late taxes, James' restitution and probation payments and child support (before we were married) and unemployment benefits over-payments and the list goes on and on and on. I've had my share of scary letters at the worst possible time over the years. We just got a letter over $93.oo in taxes we missed paying this past year. They make it to the point with no formalities or niceties only facts of what you owe and by when and what will happen if you don't pay up.
But unless this is something you have known about and ignored for the past two years then you will be able to make payment arragments.
Call them and ask to make a payment plan, offer $25 or $50 or $100 a month, whatever you can afford and then stick to that plan and if you can pay more one month do so, pay it off if you can when you have it, otherwise stick to the payment plan and it will go away with nothing bad happening.
The key is communicating with the government office in question and keeping your side of the bargain. They know everyone is half broke and will be reasonable: they would never get any money out of anyone if they expected full payment on demand.
You just have to make effort to communicate back now that they have communicated with you. But by no means ignore it. That is the best way to make everything bad for yourself.
Cheer up.
Oh no! That's so annoying!
I agree with the others though, you must go on the holiday!
Trust me, between driving fines, dog tickets, late taxes, James' restitution and probation payments and child support (before we were married) and unemployment benefits over-payments and the list goes on and on and on. I've had my share of scary letters at the worst possible time over the years. We just got a letter over $93.oo in taxes we missed paying this past year. They make it to the point with no formalities or niceties only facts of what you owe and by when and what will happen if you don't pay up.
But unless this is something you have known about and ignored for the past two years then you will be able to make payment arragments.
Call them and ask to make a payment plan, offer $25 or $50 or $100 a month, whatever you can afford and then stick to that plan and if you can pay more one month do so, pay it off if you can when you have it, otherwise stick to the payment plan and it will go away with nothing bad happening.
The key is communicating with the government office in question and keeping your side of the bargain. They know everyone is half broke and will be reasonable: they would never get any money out of anyone if they expected full payment on demand.
You just have to make effort to communicate back now that they have communicated with you. But by no means ignore it. That is the best way to make everything bad for yourself.
Cheer up.
Thanks pep. It's not a scary letter, I've paid enough fines this past year to know the consequences of paying late and all that bullshit it is just very annoying and upsetting to get this stupid letter the night before my last finals which already has me stressed out. On top of other financial things. Since I'm taking ten days off work I was budgeting to pay my bills and still have enough to enjoy myself on my trip with some extra cash but now I have to pay that money to CHP. I'm not going to ignore it. I just didn't know I was going to have to pay this and I like how they are only giving me a month notice after two years since the incident. I'm going on my trip. I'll call them to see if I can do a payment plan or at least get an extension especially since I don't make $800 a month.
I've had a long day, been up since 5am and I didn't get home until 11pm to find the stupid letter. So miss cranky pants is cranky.
I've been looking at pictures of Ryan Gosling and now I hate my whole life because he is too handsome.
I hear that, Amy.
I wasn't a fan, until 'Drive'.
Love that soundtrack, too! Obsessed with that genre.
I'm giving you a nightcall...
My husband left us in the middle of October. He says he still loves me, and hasn't left me. He moved several states away. He sends 40 to 100 a week for gas and groceries. The deal was, that I was a stay at home mom. Now, I can't get hired to teach. I was going to save money up for civilian police school. I just started liking Christmas because Issy was born 2 days after it. Now I'm so fuking sad. I'm going to cry a bunch when I get back from work.
I hope things get better, Sema.
Why did he leave? was it for work?
They tell me I cant Cult at work anymore. FUCK THAT SHIT.
Also Jazz,I too have to many bills to pay. Lets think of a grand master plan to make loads of cash in ways that may or may not be legal or social perverse.
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
I already feel like I need another drink. Glass of wine for breakfast. Thats normal in France right?
My boss is already up my ass and being a dick.
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
Maybe if you culted less at work, you would have less bills to pay and the IUC wouldn't come for you, Norm.
This is awful, I'm sorry. So he hasn't left but he left? Is he going through a breakdown or something?
Also Jazz,I too have to many bills to pay. Lets think of a grand master plan to make loads of cash in ways that may or may not be legal or social perverse.
If you me and Irina created a new form of porn we'd be bajillionaires.
It would be classy, obscure, hipster porn with strange animals and paint everywhere.
...please
As your attorney, my advise to you is to start drinking heavily(er).-Tuffy
I think perhaps this is all meant to serve as a learning experience for me. Because I'm beginning to think in exactly that way. And it'll help me in the long run. I think what causes problems is my fear of ending up without friends, but I have enough people that are real friends that I shouldn't be trying so hard to increase that number. I can't let the fear of "what if so and so doesn't like me?" ruin my life.