Buzzkill of the Day

Amber, it's important. I know it's not the same as what you're doing, but this is how I tackled it.

It's okay. Do what you need too.

So I'll guess my posts will be scarcer and less interesting from now on.

Who do I send the strongly worded letter to???!!!

I'll send one too--just last week you gave me an idea for a gift

I have a headache that might make me kill
Or just really want a nap.
I needa real bed.

Bloody appartment building management have lost my Amazon parcel (which has my Mum's Christmas present in). I had to wait in line for 30 minutes in sub zero temperatures for them to tell me this. FUCKERS!

Amazon will replace it. But still that sucks. I've been there.

Well, I hate it when parcels hang out of our letterbox in full view of the street. And the delivery people here are particularly unreliable.

We don't get parcels home in Romania. They keep them at the post office closest to your home and you get a notice to go pick it up within a specified period of time.

I'm so disappointed with tonight. We were going to go eat and then see Sightseers at the cinema but the traffic in was awful and took an hour (normally it's only 15 minutes!) and then in the food place they were understaffed and food took ages to arrive and when it did it had peas even though I said I was allergic so I said don't bother with my meal, we don't have time. They insisted they'd do it straight away but it took another 10 minutes to arrive and we rushed eating and missed the film anyway. So miserable now =(

It was supposed to be my nice evening for getting my assignments in today but it was bollocks. We wrote a letter to the head office of the chain because this has happened like 3 times now. It's a real allergy! I have an eli-pen! I'm not being fussy, it's really pissing me off that no one ever listens!

First package I sent to my apartment, the guy left it outside under the buzzer. It of course got stolen.

They leave them by my front door and put my door mat on top to 'hide' it. The other day we received a package from Amazon that was about 3' x 2' x 2'. It was so less conspicuous with a door mat centered on top of it. Though I do applaud the effort.

Today I found out I need glasses. I feel so old right now.

It's raining and I don't feel like going out (gotta go vote today). The western half of the country is under snow, roads are closed etc and here we only get shitty rain. I want snowflakes!

Then again I wouldn't like a winter like last one, with snow heaps almost as tall as me and houses buried in snow in the country.

Ugh, that sucks. Do you guys have plans to go see it some other night? Better not have dinner at the same place again!

I made a slide show about my niece yesterday for my brother (yay). My dad wanted to send it to others but it's too big a file to send (boo).

I found this girl who likes Zelda (yay). She went to the Symphony of the Goddesses (Legend of Zelda concert) with another guy (boo).

I met this girl through a friend at school. Nice girl. Thought I'd be friends and get to know her. Not trying to hit on her or anything. She seems nice. Suddenly she starts ignoring me. So I give it a couple of weeks, say hello again. No response. I notice that she's going offline every time I try to talk to her, so I give it some time. Nearly two weeks. No response. To a simple hello, how are you? So I give it another two weeks. I say hello tonight. She accuses me of "harassing" her because I say "try to talk to her" every time she gets on Facebook. Well, my records show that I only try to talk to you once in a while, and I'm super fucking sorry that I'm "Harassing" you by saying "hello" every two weeks. What the fuck is going on in this country?? I feel like shit's all kinds of whacky here. Or maybe I've suddenly become some sort of fucking creep and I don't even know it. I just don't understand. What the shit.

So, according to the friend that introduced us, her explanation is that because I'm the one who is constantly starting conversations, like texting people or whatever, that constitutes a sort of "harassment"...? Like, I text someone one day, and then I wait for them to text me another day. Here's the problem. NO ONE WOULD EVER FUCKING TEXT ME! PEOPLE DON'T TEXT ME UNLESS I TEXT THEM! That's just how it goes because people are busy and I'm not their bestfriend or boyfriend. So I'm supposed to just fucking sit here waiting for the world to talk to me, and I can guaran-goddamn-tee you they fucking won't!

Seriously, I need honest opinions. Are you supposed to "take turns" texting? Or do you just text whenever you want?

You're American, ergo You Suck.

Welcome to Paris, Chris.

The Socialists won.

I have no idea.

If I find myself always the one initiating conversations I feel awkward and just stop.

Ah. I see.

My advice to you is to start adding "eh" at the end of every third sentence while in Paris.

Also, go see the catacombs.

Works better with "euh".

No.

Don't pretend to be French; that is doomed to failure.

Become Canadian. He can pull that off.

Really doesn't matter *what* you are just so long as you aren't Another Fucking Yankee In My City. They hate that.

Shit's wacky everywhere man. That sounds like something that'd happen to me in the USA.

What you should have said was, "I thought you might have been an interesting person to know, but I was obviously mistaken."

Or

"I'd love to stay and chat, but you're a total bitch."

Mike, I totally wanted to tell her off, but I settled for pointing out how long it had been since I'd actually said anything to her, and unfriending her. No reason to keep her there.

Tuffy, I agree totally. I'm not at all just another yankee. There are enough of those here and they annoy.

This whole thing is just upsetting because I've been having a bit of a hard time lately and this just adds one more thing of shit on top of it. So angry lately.

I'm definitely not eating at that place again, so tired of them not listening to my very very simple request not to poison me.

We went to see the film today and it was great! So glad we went, even though I've done loads this weekend now and feel totally exhausted.

Okay, listen, Neill Strauss would not recommend this. You're a total bitch? That's too far. The first thing you said, sure, but not that right there.

Hahaha!

I mean, uh, what do you know? Dumb lady.

(Smirk) (Head nod)

I don't care about what Neill Strauss does. Besides, that's a line from Family Guy. I wasn't being serious with that one.

Okay.

Pretty much. But Fano, those people all sound like dicks.

I'm truly sorry if I upset you. I'd never speak like that to a woman. Sometimes I say and post stupid things. It doesn't help that the Internet is a place where the things you say seem permanent and lingering.

No, it's okay, no worries on my part.

Thank you for saying that, I do appreciate it (you didn't upset me).

Or

"Restraining orders are just another way of saying I love you"

You did the right thing not making a big deal about it, Chris. It's her loss.

My buzzkill: I spewed up.

Is eating too much cake considered a buzzkill?

seems like grey area

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Sarah is right. You did good, by rising above the situation.

But still, like this statement best:
"I'd love to stay and chat, but you're a total bitch."

Oh yeah, got laryngitis.
It's pretty painful. Gonna need some antibiotics or something tomorrow.

I forgot my dream once again. I woke up before my alarm clock went off, lay there in bed thinking about what I'd dreamt, didn't want to take my phone and write it down, and then as soon as I got up it vanished from my mind. What the fuck?

Babygirl had some kind of allergic reaction today. Her face went all splotchy and red and her eye was itchy. Poor bubba. She seemed ok after an hour or so. I forgot to pack her frozen cubes I made for her lunch, so I gave her mashed up stuff that all the other kids were having made by the cook. Mum fail.

Yeah,Jess, you're right. One of my real friends said to me "You need to stop talking to people who don't give a shit about you". Which pretty much sums it up. I guess I've just been trying too hard.

And thanks, Sarah!

Chris, I'm sorry you're meeting so many weirdos. Do you mostly hang out with other exchange students, or?

You genuinely care about people and want friends, yet they leave you alone. I can't stand people and I avoid them like the plague and they never leave me alone. I see too much proof that people are designed to ruin other people's plans. Sometimes when I meet people I think to myself, "Pretend to be interested in this person so that they don't like you..."

The guy who sells me weed said he wouldn't sell me weed anymore because I never hang out at his place with his girlfriend and other idiot potheads, so I had to smoke a joint with him just to be able to pick up. I feel that, considering that this guy is a dealer, he should be mostly concerned with the financial side of things.

You gotta remember, a lot of what you're feeling is likely misplacement of some kind, due to you living in an unfamiliar environment. Do you wait until you're lonely to message someone? Next time you text someone try to think less about it, be less serious. Send the text and then go watch kung fu movies and lose your phone for a few hours. Text someone and say HEY IM GOING FOR STEAK YOU COMIN and if they say they want Chinese food then say NO STEAK FUCK YOU ON MY WAY TO STEAKS. Steak is the food of kings. Kung Fu movies are the food of kings. People out there are uncouth; their faces, by the horde, are just waiting to be told to fuck off. Who wouldn't want steak? Why even deal with those people? Empires weren't built on Chinese food. Except for China. You should get a motorcycle.

Vrrrrmmm...

Aw Fano, I just read that and she's not being very fair. Just keep looking for better people to text.

Imke, I'm not on exchange, so all the other exchange students know kids from there own programs. I hang out with French kids. But apparently, in this culture, if you ask a girl for her number, if means you want to fuck. Which is either really sad because men have made it this way by being so forward, or really egotistical of women for assuming every man who talks to her wants to fuck. I don't really know.

Haha, Dan, I totally agree with you. I don't usually wait for serious stuff. I start with, "Hey, how was your day?" Some basic shit like that. Or a random fact about something I saw on the metro or whatever. I try to make it light. And yeah, it's try I'm probably feeling displaced, but my French friend also hates it here, because people are fucking whack. Your post reminded me of something she said to me on the phone just now. Some kid in a movie was talking about The Scarlet Letter and he described it as two assholes surrounded by assholes. I feel as though I'm surrounded by people who are all slightly fucked in the head. I mean, I am too, but in a silly way, not in a paranoid way. She got assaulted verbally on the metro today and no one even helped or said anything. It's so shit. And fuck yes, I need a motorcycle. I want one so bad.

Amii, I think I'm done looking for new friends to make. Or at least, I'm not gonna try so hard. I'm just gonna be content with the people I have and let the rest be. I'm just sort of disappointed with the way people have turned out to be here.

I'm really interested in Ludwig's thoughts on this whole thing.

Chris, no one ever liked me until I stopped caring if people liked me or not.

I don't mean I stopped caring if the people that meant something to me liked me, but everyone else.

Not trying so hard is a good idea. Don't stop being your kind self, but just realise that if someone doesn't like that self you are that is is their loss not yours- why would you want to be around them if they didn't like you? That isn't a loss for you.