Buzzkill of the Day

I had to talk to one of the girl's that works here to hustle a lil more around this place and then my boss's sister kind of interjected and it made me feel like an asshole. Anyway....the girl got defensive and I just don't know what else to say to here to make it click.

Slap her and tell her to get her shit together?

I could try that...

Grrrrrrr. I got a letter yesterday saying I owe my university £5,345 tuition fees but I don't. It's so hard to sort it out too because the admin woman is such a stupid bint. I don't even understand why this mistake has happened! She won't explain!! I asked her what I need to provide as evidence and she said, "A statement...or something". Fucking seriously?
So I provide every student loan statement I've ever had and she says, "Just asked a colleague and you need a letter from your old university saying when you were there and what course." So I send these, she says, "No, from last year." I said, I wasn't at university last year!! She hasn't responded.
They are basically asking me to prove I wasn't at this university last year, which is totally ridiculous. I've transferred here as a second year student and they're trying to charge me for my first year? I'm completely bemused. I have no idea what's going or why she's so rude and unhelpful.

Is this just me? Does this shit happen to me so much more than everyone else? It's like every stage of my life is a struggle because bureaucratic idiocy. I do everything right all the time and then other people fuck it up, they're careless and useless and stupid and then I jump through hoops to sort out their mistakes as if it's my fault. So angry.

Horribly run university.

That is really ridiculous.

Can't you tell them they need to prove you were in fact there, as you have provided all of your evidence already that you were not?

Did you move to go to this university? Maybe (if you did) providing rental statements from where you lived last year would be helpful, not that that is any of their business. But I mean, I don't know.

It was the woman not communicating clearly AT ALL what the problem was. I just had a massive shit fit, as it happens. She emailed back saying the figures are correct because I'm being charged as a new student and new students are charged £9000 tuition fees. However, this is the first time I've been told I'm a new student. So all previous documentation told me I needed to pay £3454 so I applied for that loan amount and then had this terrifying news dropped on me.
So then I had a melt down and dealt with things as I usually do: I chucked all my university stuff in the bin, said I wanted to die, cried, shouted and went mental. I thought this meant I'd just be kicked out of university.
While I did that my boyfriend rang this bitch who put him on the phone to an intelligent person who gave advice well and eventually I spoke to a local authority who told me that the rest of the £9000 would be paid to my university automatically.

My boyfriend is a bit too good for me. I don't handle things well guys, it's really appalling. Also, when I spoke to the student loan company and the local education authority they both said I should have been told this but clearly wasn't. Totally stressed out now. I want to set off a stink bomb in the university admin office.

Sorry for all the inarticulate ranting you guys. Being told I owe thousands of pounds I was unaware of owing just kicked the shit out of me. I thought everything was fine you know? Nightmare! At least it appears to be sorted now thanks to my boyfriend's calm attitude.

I am ever happier I didn't go to Warwick.

I don't go to Warwick, they probably value their students there, those students have prospects.

I know you're not at Warwick, but this could happen anywhere. And I'd rather it were a misunderstanding here, where the tuition is hilarious compared to those in the UK. Not that I'm paying for my college, anyway. But still. I would've had a nervous breakdown if I'd got the same news you have.

Yeah. I read...

£9000 tuition fees

And audibly horror gasped.

Mine would have been £6700.

Yeah but you expected it!

My great uncle died sometime last week. Never really knew the guy and whenever I saw him, well he was deaf and I was never taught sign language. So I there is a funeral this coming Saturday. Which means I have to spend the day with Margie my mother. Who I dont talk to unless I have to. And my brother and father. Who I am okay with. But when the whole family get together its a shit storm. Then throw a funeral ontop of it with a family I dont know. Whooow. Atleast they should have drinks and food.
Is that bad to say? I just dont really do funerals. I have am overly okay with death.

Why don't you speak to your mother? Don't answer that if you don't want. I would die if my children didn't want to talk to me.

I'm sorry about your uncle, and the upcoming uncomfortableness of being around family.

Margie and I dont talk for a number of reasons. To sum it up years of extreme emotional abuse that I just recently realized asnt normal.
She used to tell me she hated me, Used to leave the hosue and call the house from a pay phone and tell me she was never coming home. Said she shouldhave given me up for adoption. Told me she would have killed herself because of how I was if she didnt wan to go to hell. And this was ll before I was in school. But then was the mother who would go to all the school functions and feildtrips as that great mom. And when I was older just more head games. Lots of crazy shit, lost my job because of her. And just more head games and bullshit.
So ya we hardly talk. She isnt my mother at this point. There is no love not even on a basic level.
Whelp theres my rant for the day.

Anyways thank you for the convern. I will be fine though and atleast I get to dress up.

Oh, man, I'm sorry. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment, especially from their own mother.

Eh its all good I have dealt with it for years. Its easier to just not talk to her. Plus my father and her are going to a seperation, which is good, but she is all crazy about that.
I am seeing a shrink and dealing with the problems my childhood caused.

Damn Noah. Sorry about your Uncle and your Mom.

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But yeah. I'm glad you are working it out for yourself and hope you can find peace about it all.

I tried to forgive her, a couple times but something always comes along for her to mess up and cause trouble for. I have come to terms witht he fact that we will never have a relationship outside of the necessary hello goodbyes.
She never hit me, went to spack me once and I tild her she would regrett it for the rest of her life she backed down. I would never touch her but I have a way with words that can cripple someone.
So ya this weekend will be interesting. And they all want to carpool, in my car. 5 of us.

I've hit my mom.

I never took a beating in my life without fighting back.

Never will either, don't care how much bigger or stronger a person is than me. I go down kicking and fighting.

You seem such a lovely person, noah, it breaks my heart to hear that you didn't get the Mum you deserved.

I hate today. I just want to sleep. Oh wait. There are bugs crawling all over my sheets.

What kind of bugs? That seems realyl scary.
I have no mom by blood but I do have a lady who is like a mother to me. Her and her daughters are my family, When i say my sisters they are not blood but closer to me than my actual family.
Never had much of a family frowing up. No autns or uncles, grandparents, or anyone I was close. Blood doesnt dictate family for me.

Just sugar ants. The sheets are changed now though. I was just being a grump. (And a slob)

Sorry about your family though.

Another one though: I've been doing crunches and push-ups everyday and now my tailbone is killing me, making it MUCH harder to do crunches under my cubicle at work.

I hate ants.

I love ants.

I once spent two months alone in the summer observing the behavior and patterns of all the different types of ants that crawled around the back porch. I was sort of homeless at the time, staying in my childhood home that was for sale and completely empty, no friends, no one around. Just me and the ants. And Trevor. Who was a baby. Gabriel was visiting my grandma. I was twenty.

I wouldn't like ants in my bed much, however.

Oh I like ants, I like watching them and playing with them. Just not in my house.

The kids are so cute. Every time we get an ant hill in the summer they always protect it from the neighborhood kids.

"No! Don't smush it! Those are my moms ants!'

Not a fan of seeing carpenter ants, actually. but only because I know the damage they could do to my house.

I'd like them if I saw them elsewhere.

They told me I cant draw at work anymore. Maybe thats a first world problem but it still sucks. They say its because I could steal customer info...Because having a pen and paper is the only way to do that.

I once poured almost a whole gallon of bleach on a mound of ants and it worked just as well as any ant killer I could have used. They were red ants and they settled in near the front door where my kids had to walk in and out so it was war.

First they took your phone, now they take the pens and paper?

they are slowly removing all means of communication from the outside world!!! At this rate, before you know it you are going to be carving HELP messages into the flesh of your belly with a shive you made out of a broken toilet flusher!!!

Get out now before it is too late!!!

i do not know if *shive* is the appropriate word, it is the first that popped in my head

Shiv, I like shiv. And I also got yelled at for using the bathroom for too long. So I might have to make a shiv out of broken computer bits.

Checked out the problem area before my shower. Yep. It was bleeding today.

It sounds like you might have a cyst (Pilonidal cyst)... Doing crunches shouldn't aggravate your tailbone that much. When I had a cyst on my tailbone, it had times when it would be sore making it impossible to do crunches. It would also bleed sometimes.

Couldn't you just put a small pillow or pad under your bum to help?

I stayed up all night last night so I knocked out as soon as i got home, forgot i had food in my bag and it was covered in ants when i woke up. We have a serious ant problem right now.

Stress makes me physically ill so I've done all this work and was so looking forward to my lecture this morning and instead I'm at home with my stomach like it's wrapped in barbed wire. I'm genuinely gutted about missing this morning, it's my favourite class and I'd done something I really liked for the workshop. Ugh. All night I was pouring sweat and only half asleep too so actually I might have caught a cold or something, I dunno, I'm gonna blame it on the stress.

Sorry that you feel so stressed at the moment. Must be very nerve-wracking changing universities. Out of interest, why did you change? Have you changed courses too?

It's the same course but my last university wasn't very good.It's supposedly the best creative writing course but I have already learned more in these five weeks than I did in 1 and 1/2 years at my old uni. Partly it's because when my dad got cancer and I fell behind at my last university I couldn't get any help. They were just like, "Fill out this form and you don't need to do that assignment" and I kept falling further and further behind with more to re-take in the summer! Lecturers didn't answer emails, I didn't know what I was paying for, so I quit and originally thought I was done with university.

I love my course here, it's varied and interesting and much more challenging but in a good way. When I get home I do the reading and I research, which I never had to do at the university because they assigned nothing. In my first year I got a 2.1 (second best grade) and really I could have got a first (the best) but I found myself just coasting and sometimes kind of baffled as to why I got a lower grade and someone shitty had got a good one. It felt like it was a quantity over quality thing. I would sweat over a 1,500 word short story and someone else would have a terrible 2,000 story with fucked up grammar and tense slips and they would get a couple more percent on their grade and push them up to a first, it didn't make sense to me.

I made the right choice but the adjustment has been difficult. They do things a lot differently here, mistakes have been made on their part, but I'm working much harder so that's the main thing. I wish I was in class now, waaaah.

Haha, I know what a 2.1 is silly!

That's terrible that the lecturers were so lazy at your last university, especially given your willingness to keep on top of things despite your difficult personal circumstances. Definitely sounds like you made the right decision by changing.

I miss studying. I want to apply for a part-time MA but don't think I can afford it for a while. I also only want to go to one UK institution to do it and I'm afraid I'll fail. :s

I don't see why British universities must be so damn expensive. Our tuition fee is 3100 lei per year, that is a little under $1000, and around 600 pounds. Sure, compared to our wages it's not super cheap, either. But still. You can understand why Warwick would have been such a strain on our budget/loan (I guess). And then there are the scholarships. If you're among the best students, your education is free. Every university has its own number of state-financed places, my major had 7, for instance, but the Philolgy section had around 40. So far, I haven't paid for college any of the 4 years (3 of BA and this year). Oh, and if you're even better, say the first, second or third in your programme, the university actually GIVES you money. That's around $110 every month except for the summer, but it's pretty awesome.

Ahhhhhhhh. I woke up feeling like there's something in my left eye! This wouldn't be such a big deal save for the fact that my baby niece is visiting for a couple weeks and is arriving tonight. I can't take the chance this is pink eye or a sty.
Dammit dammit dammit.

I thought you were Imke!! hahaha, avatars swap around on my iPad, for a while I was like, "why has harriet got sexy ladies as her avatar?" but it was Big S's avatar.

The short answer would be because they're more competitive and a much larger proportion of the population go to university here. I'm not saying UK institutions are better than those in Romania, but that's just the way it is. The government can't afford to fund their vast running costs, especially given the growing number of institutions (115) and the higher level of intake than previous generations. This means that they can be run like businesses, which is of course wrong and depressing.

Oh, they are much better. But yeah, I guess you're right. We have much much fewer in Romania, and we're a much smaller country, too.

In Norway you only pay a semester fee, which is about 60 euros at the university here.

Nm. I'm fine.